Youth and unconditional love

As someone who loves deeply, I never imagined that something like this would come out of my mouth. Yet that must come from a significant lesson. A lesson for those younger people who may surrender their entire self to people in the name of unconditional love and lose themselves, their existence, and their purpose, while the people for whom they suffer are unaware of their agony and pain, much alone understand it. This world is transient, and the things in it are ephemeral. Allah tests us in various ways, and occasionally Allah tests some individuals in practically every important element of their lives. Trials in relationships is one of them. One of the most difficult trials is grief, abandonment, loss, and betrayal in personal relationships. This ordeal was used to test Prophet Yousuf and see how Allah made him self-sufficient. The goal of this discussion is not to end relationships, but to raise awareness and provide counsel to young folks about not loving unreservedly. Our hearts are pure and innocent when we are young, and we love sincerely. And when this love is discounted or denigrated, a young person often collapses.

When a young person unconditionally loves another person in any type of relationship(halal or haram), it surely has a lot of love, softness, selflessness, innocence, and unique gestures that everyone likes and enjoys, but no one teaches these young and soft minds not to love unconditionally because when they see people (be it family, relatives or a friend) they loved unconditionally changing for any reason or in situations of life-changing, or the trials in their ways making it tough to feel the love, and their unbearable pain, suffering, and hurt go unnoticed. These young minds then lose themselves, injure themselves, and frequently impair their career, education, mental health, physical health, and life in general, and while going through such a mess, no one notices the degeneration and destruction of these innocent lives. This is what motivated me to write about the anguish of young souls in their twenties who lose themselves for people they love and waste their valuable years walking in the dark while the people for whom they are suffering are not even aware or concerned about the degeneration of their lives.

My advice to young people is to remember that when you love people unconditionally and your love and sufferings go unacknowledged, and you lose your own self in this pursuit, you will suffer immense mental and physical pain that will be neglected by others. No one will come to hold you, keep an eye on you, call or hug you, and no one will be concerned enough about you injuring yourself, your education, or your career. Believe me when I say that no one will come, not even those you loved wholeheartedly and felt you were giving a part of yourself to them. Remember that in the end, you will be alone with your pain.

This could be a trial in which Allah trains young minds not to be fooled by the transient love of this world and to place their hope solely in Allah's love and in the afterlife. This is easier said than done, but believe me, young soul! You will overcome this agonizing phase and experience, and you will no longer love others the way you did before, you will no longer love anyone unconditionally, and you will no longer identify love with the adjective unconditional.

The devastating anguish that shackles your soul will be alleviated when you ask Allah to hold you in salah or tahajjud, and trust me, one day you will forget this treachery and be cured. But remember, as you heal and become self-sufficient, make a promise not to inadvertently harm other youth by putting them through the same suffering you once experienced. Note: Haram relationships are disallowed in Islam. You can still come out of that if you want. Be easy and Allah will help you.