You're Settling and You Know You Are

And it really pisses me off!!

Harsh words.........maybe.......but it's true.

I see it everyday with friends, clients, family, colleagues and yes myself at times!

No one is immune from settling at some points in their life. It is part of life. And we also get to change it when we know we are settling.

And yet so few people actually take the bull by the horns and change their situation.

Why?

Lots of reasons:

• Fear of the unknown
• Money
• Fear of being alone
• Lack of confidence to change career
• Lack of self belief / worth / love
• Feeling trapped by responsibilities
• Guilt
• Not wanting to upset the kids
• Not wanting to upset family
• Not believing there is better for them

Did any or some of those resonate for you?

I always use the analogy of the rusty nail.

If life is fairly comfortable and that rusty nail you are sat on only slightly touches your ass, you are less inclined to make a dramatic change.

It's only when that rusty nail seriously pierces the skin that you will take notice and do something to stop the pain.

WTAF?

It's crazy when you think about it.

Life has to get that uncomfortable for us to go and find contentment and joy in a different place.

But the sad reality is a lot of people will KEEP sitting on that rusty nail, with it piercing their skin.

Saying things like:

• "Ive made my bed so I'll lie in it"
• "I'm too old to change now"
• "I have to look after her / him, they won't cope without me"
• "I'm not going to be the parent to break up the home"

..............Seriously guys, THAT is NOT what life is about.

Believe it not we are here to have fun.

And I don't mean a couple of nights down the pub getting pissed.

We incarnated into these bodies at this time to expand consciousness, enjoy all that humanity offers and live our purpose.

If we're not doing that......then please tell me........whats the point?

(Feel free to leave your comments below)

Yes, yes I get the last 4 years have been less than desirable in lots of ways, and now we have Two Tier Keir Starlin, Starmaggedon going out of control in a truly communistic way........

Perhaps you feel like your control has gone and you just have to put up and shut up.

But that seriously will not give you the life you give a shit about.

OK Mel What Do I Do About It?

Well, you take stock of whats pissing you off right now.

You ask yourself some deep questions.

You start to be ?? honest with yourself.

You write it all down (trust me its cathartic).

And then you ask yourself..........

1. Am I happy to be living the same life in 12 months or 5 years?
2. Am I truly in love?
3. Am I living my hearts desire?
4. Am I living my purpose?
5. Do I know my why?

And if you answered 'No' to more than one of the above you then get to make a choice.

• Am I going to keep putting up and end up as one of the biggest regrets of the dying (not living a life true to who you are)?
• Or am I going to make some changes that allow me to start living more authentically toward a life I truly desire?

I live my life as much as possible on gut feeling and intuition.

How did you feel reading those questions and being presented with those choices?

If it felt heavy, then theres work to be done for you (sorry).

If it did not resonate in the slightest then I want to congratulate you for already living a life true to who you currently are.

As always feel free to reach out to me or Book a complementary call to share what is going on for you right now.

Totally confidential and always massively helpful.

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