You're Not Broken

I am a coach with a very busy practice. Most of my clients don’t want, or like the word therapy, and they much prefer the word and the idea of coaching.

If you're like my clients, you probably had tons of therapy, even psychiatric treatments, spent hours reading books and meditating… and it just hasn’t gotten better yet.

By no means I claim to be better than doctors and other highly educated mental health professionals. To be honest, I’m a total newbie compared to many pros out there.

Without being boastful, I do believe I have a je ne sais quoi as a coach. 

And it hasn't come naturally to toot my own horn, so coming from me this means a lot. You see, growing up, I was always the mediocre sibling. The one who deserved the least success. It took my own deep internal work to shatter that reality. Now, I'm the one who thrives in an industry and a profession with a 3%-5% success rate.

There certainly is a place for pills and medicine, but for the majority, that’s not what you need. I’m simply here to address that conventional methods don’t often work. In fact, I’m here to make a ridiculous generalization that more often than not, what the masses are doing is always the wrong approach. Choosing a mate. Choosing a career. Dealing with conflict. Parenting. Education. All wrong, wrong, wrong. 

Mental health and the pursuit of happiness is not an exception. It treats the symptoms. It doesn’t treat the cause.

(Every problem you experience is a symptom, with a deeper root cause).

Personally, if it makes you feel better, I did close to 15 years of therapy. 5 years ago, I was on pills too. I believed that I was broken, all because of events that occurred so long ago, and now, in the present, I couldn’t be fixed, and that was the impression I was often given by the experts.

Have you hit rock bottom? Why do you feel infinite dissatisfaction? Are you drowning in toxic feelings you can’t escape? What is depression and anxiety? 

I work with successful professionals and entrepreneurs. All my clients, regardless of their industry and profession, have the same problem. They want to be happier. Having a lot of professional success has been a blessing, but when you get there, you realize that it’s not enough. You also realize that you are not where you thought you'd be by now. When you were a teenager looking into your future, you thought you would have achieved so much more by this age. 

Now you know. Money doesn’t make you happier. Sex doesn’t give what you’re seeking. Travels, dinners out, going out meeting people… you come home, take off your perfect suit, and alone in your room, alone with your thoughts, you realize that what used to make you happy makes you feel even emptier. 

Before you started chasing after success, you believed that by this age, you’d be a lot higher up, have more together, and be a happy camper. Instead, you’re consumed by the persisting thoughts that you could have achieved more professionally. You could have better relationships. But outside of having money and living comfortably, what else will now make you happy? You want more, but what is that?

It’d be great to have a supportive network of people you can really trust and be yourself. But the mask you put on to jump into the grind has fused with your real skin, and now, you don’t even know what is the real you, and what is the mask, nor how to take it off. You can’t stop and reflect. You have to keep going, because you invested so much education, time, and energy, to make it here, to be so accomplished. 

You're afraid of what might come up when you're alone with your thoughts.

You sneak around to go to therapy that never treat the root cause. You're off to buy some self-help books or courses to help you, because that seems like a more normal thing to do. 

None of these things actually challenge what you're trying to protect. The very thing that keeps you stuck. That's why it doesn't work.

You do this for months, years, and now you wonder… “there must be something wrong with me.”

It's time to stop beating around the bush with pills, hiding, trying the same thing, hoping for different results. You're sneaking around the real issue.

What's been done to you can all be undone. Surely, you remember the times when you felt you could do anything. Anything is possible. That is a switch that you can flick on again. Uncovering that switch is the key to a new level of living.

You’re not broken.

There is nothing to fix.

You weren't born this way.

About the Author:

Julia Cha is a best-selling author and a success coach for women leaders ready to shatter glass ceilings. With her expertise in subconscious transformation, she guides her clients to create their dream life in all aspects: a thriving career, financial abundance, and supportive relationships.

Learn more: www.juliacha.com

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