You’re Not The Best (And What To Do About It)

As a high achiever, I notice a pattern.

I give myself a challenge. I meet the challenge. I find fleeting happiness in that challenge. I move to a different challenge.

I notice this with the people I hang out with, too.

I hang out with a group of high achievers. I learn what I can and quickly rise to the top of the group. I move to find a different group.

But I’ve noticed two things that I struggle with, and I’m wondering if the same might be true for you.

I Create People and Situations So That I Can Win

I was with a group of coaches this week and I have been coaching longer than most of them. I charge higher fees than most of them. In a lot of ways I am “more successful” than they are.

But this week I challenged myself to create every conversation as a gift, as something that I could learn from.

And I found there was so much richness in that room. That if I showed up as “I can learn from you,” rather than “Been there done that,” there was a world of new learning freshly available to me.

I came away from an intensive that I had attended for the first time in 2016 with a new perspective on what was available for me. With a new appreciation for the depth of work that was still available to me.

I could take this on as a lifelong journey rather than a check the box. Rather than, “Is that all there is?”

And I came back changed.

I Avoid Uncomfortable Rooms and Intimidating People

I feel like I’m pretty good at continually challenging myself.

But I’m really not.

Because I only take on challenges that I think I can meet. Things that look possible. Things that I can already see how I can get there.

As my coach said to me recently, “The only worthwhile challenge is the one that you have no idea how to do.”

How do I meet with people I have no idea if or how I can serve?

How do I serve them?

How do I get into more rooms that scare me?

What is it that I want that I have no idea how to get?

What Are You Avoiding Because It Scares You?

Does this resonate?

I confess I don’t know how to make this feeling go away.

For me or for you.

But I do know a lot more becomes available when I share it.

Let me know if that’s true for you, too.

Going Deeper

If you want to explore this in more depth, you are not alone.

More and more founders like you are coming out of the spiritual closet and seeing their work, and what they want to create, as a vital personal journey to both abundance and meaning. To the joy of feeling alive and “on purpose.”

This is what I write about. For founders, for original thinkers, no matter where they are in their transformation.

The world needs YOU, in all your brilliance and imperfection.

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