You’re Allowed to Want More (and Receive It)

High-achieving women like you are pros at giving—time, energy, solutions, and support.

But when it comes to receiving, discomfort creeps in (I couldn’t even receive a compliment without it making me cringe).?

You’ve learned to equate “having it all” with doing it all, and that belief is keeping you stuck.

Let’s do some reflection:

• Do you deflect compliments by downplaying yourself?

I used to do this all the time.? I couldn’t just say ‘thank you’, I would downplay my achievements or how proud I felt. Looking back on it, I feared being seen which didn’t always make sense to me since I LOVED being the center of attention in my family.? When it came to the outside world though, I was freaked out.

• Do you say “I got it” even when you don’t??

I used to say this because I needed praise and believed that success was tied to doing more. It eventually turned into an angry and resentful, ‘I GOT IT.’ This one, especially if you’re a mom, can become a huge source of burnout if you believe that moms should do everything and be happy about it.

• Do you feel guilty if something comes too easily?

We live in a society that glorifies the underdog story filled with struggle and triumph against all odds. We were also raised by parents who were raised by parents who went through some horrific tough times in history.? Struggling and hustling were part of their everyday lives.? Today though, we don’t have to carry that baggage & struggle for success.? Life gets to be easy and we can find massive success by doing what comes naturally and easy to us.? Those are our gifts and they come easy to us so that we can share them with others.

If you answered yes and resonated with my stories, congratulations!? You have a receiving problem!

Here’s the good news: The first step to change is self-awareness. Now that you can identify a challenge with receiving, we can work to make receiving something you can accept easily and confidently.

This week’s practice: Notice & Name Your Receiving Blocks

? Pause & Reflect – Each time you feel resistance to receiving (help, support, compliments, rest, etc.), pause and ask yourself: What am I feeling? Guilt? Unworthiness? Obligation?

? Journal the Pattern – At the end of the day, jot down moments when you struggled to receive. What was offered? How did you react? What thoughts came up?

? Reframe the Story – When you catch yourself resisting, ask: What if receiving is just as powerful as giving? What if it’s safe for me to be supported?

Awareness is the first step to change. The more you notice, the more you can shift.

If you want more support with this practice, book a free call here.?

Xoxo - Alex