Your "Window of Tolerance"

There is always something we can learn from others. We all look at things differently, and with tolerance, we explore a new side of the world.

Let us never hold back from developing our tolerance. With it, we’ll widen our capacity to be more accepting of others’ differences.

Tolerance is the ability to endure something, and its either difficulties, pain, or to tolerate an annoying situation, one that has a different point of view of the matter.

Our body is always releasing?hormones to try to keep us as level as possible (homeostasis).

When our hormones are more level within our window of tolerance, we feel more able to handle situations appropriately.

Within this window, we are adaptable, able to emotionally self-regulate, and deal with triggers more harmoniously.

We all have a limit of what we're able to tolerate at any given time.

There is always something we can learn from others. We all look at things differently, and with tolerance, we explore a new side of the world.

Let us never hold back from developing our tolerance. With it, we’ll widen our capacity to be more accepting of others’ differences.

Tolerance is the ability to endure something, and its either difficulties, pain, or to tolerate an annoying situation, one that has a different point of view of the matter.

Our body is always releasing?hormones to try to keep us as level as possible (homeostasis).

When our hormones are more level within our window of tolerance, we feel more able to handle situations appropriately.

Within this window, we are adaptable, able to emotionally self-regulate, and deal with triggers more harmoniously.

We all have a limit of what we're able to tolerate at any given time.

When things become too much for us to tolerate, our hormones respond in one of two ways out of our window.

We either shut down or plummet into a hypo-aroused state (the parasympathetic?nervous?is engaged, which is the freeze response to stress/danger.

In this state, we may feel overwhelmed with shame, numb to emotions, withdraw, feel?depressed, or?dissociate?in order to cope with the situation or trigger.

Or we shoot up into a hyper-aroused state (the sympathetic nervous system is ignited, which is the fight/flight response to stress or danger).

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Thank you?….In this state, we may feel fizzy with intense hormonal activity; we may feel angry, chaotic, hypervigilant, or experience anxiety and the accompanying symptoms.

How the window of tolerance relates to anxiety disorders: The sizes of our windows adjust in parallel to internal and external influences. When feeling?stressed, sad, or lacking sleep or?self-regulation?skills, our window of what we're able to tolerate shrinks.

Having a small window means that we are less able to tolerate things and are more likely to be triggered into shooting out of our window.

With repetition, routes of shooting out of our window entrench, become more easily accessible and increase the triggering of false alarms.

Having not developed effective coping strategies, a child's overactive alarm system becomes progressively more severe into adulthood.

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A small window means that we are less able to tolerate things and are more likely to be triggered into shooting out of our window.

With repetition, routes of shooting out of our window entrench, become more easily accessible and increase the triggering of false alarms.

?Having not developed effective coping strategies, a child's overactive alarm system becomes progressively more severe into adulthood.

How shame restricts windows: Understandably, our care for our children's mental well-being may invoke frustrated feelings, which could transmit shaming messages to our children.

These may range from subtle cues like eye-rolls to the more overt "Oh, for God's sake," and "Don't be so silly!"

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Sadly, these messages embed feelings of worthlessness and of "being defective" into their self-identity. As such, shame and negative?self-talk?is reinforced internally and will be their "go-to" response in situations that mirror the shamed experience.

?Feeling "defective," they develop maladaptive defenses in order to avoid shame, which further shrinks their ability to cope healthily with uncomfortable emotions.

Ignoring their fear or telling them to "get over it" is also harmful, because it elicits shame and signifies that something is wrong with them for feeling this way and reinforces their inability to cope.

With these responses, children tend to avoid their fears rather than learn to adapt and cope with uncomfortable feelings, which are believed to precipitate childhood anxiety.

Reflection on the window of tolerance in both ourselves as well as your children will enable us to be more mindful and recognize how we're feeling against your windows.

This will help us, and our children, develop the self-regulation skills to get us back inside the window, to handle the situation more appropriately.

Impart beliefs like:

The world is pretty safe, people are pretty safe.

I can cope with most things.

I have some control over things that happen to me, and I can accept things that can't be changed.

To live mindfully is to live in the moment and reawaken oneself to the present, rather than dwelling on the past or anticipating the future.

To be mindful is to observe and label thoughts, feelings, and sensations in the body in an objective manner.

Mindfulness can therefore be a tool to avoid self-criticism and judgment while identifying and managing difficult emotions.

Mindfulness is rooted in Buddhist and Hindu teachings.

Buddhism includes a journey toward enlightenment, and the concept of “sati,”—which encompasses attention, awareness, and being present—is considered the first step toward enlightenment.

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