YOUR VALUES ARE THE COMPASS THAT DIRECT YOUR LIFE
Nigel Jones
Life Coach | Certified Positive Psychology Coach | NLP Practitioner | Author | Speaker | Founder 9KM BY 9AM | Brand, Marketing, Sponsorship & PR Expert | Fellow RSA | Marketing Agency Owner
One of the best things I have ever did when I stopped drinking alcohol two and a half years ago today was to write down my core values.
It’s the start of the process of working out what it is you stand for, what you’d like to stand for and what you don’t want to stand for.
This is really powerful stuff and is at the heart of any behaviour or life change. By changing your values and beliefs you can change your story, your world and the direction of your life.
Values are the universal concepts that unite people. They include concepts like fairness, justice, freedom and equality. Tony Robbins says they ‘are like a compass that directs your life’. They motivate us, demotivate us and justify our behaviour.
One of the most exciting discoveries I made is that you can reorganise your values. You can add, delete and restructure them to support the life you want. The science says that all information must enter through our minds. The brain uses our values and beliefs as a filter system to influence how we perceive the world around us. They provide direction in our lives.
We move towards things we value and away from things we don’t. We pay attention to those things that we feel are important and ignore those things we don’t.
When I stopped drinking I started the process of reviewing, deleting and inserting new values. I realised I was living in my own self-made cycle of get up, go to work, watch TV, drink wine, go to bed, get up and do it again.
Don’t get me wrong – I have always enjoyed my life. I love running my own business and I have a wide range of hobbies and a beautiful family. But something was wrong. I was drinking too much to really appreciate what I had. So I changed it.
STEPS YOU CAN TAKE
STEP 1 – IDENTIFY YOUR POSITIVE & NEGATIVE VALUES
Make a list of your positive and negative values.
STEP 2 – REVIEW & FINALISE YOUR LIST
Sleep on your first list and add to it by identifying the core values that support the vision you have of yourself. These values are the ones you want to live your life by and never stray from.
STEP 3 – LOOK AFTER YOUR LIST
Keep it somewhere safe so you can refer back to it.
Review regularly. Your vision of yourself will evolve over time, so your values need to evolve with this vision.
In my book, Walking Back To Happiness: The Secret To Alcohol-Free Living & Well-Being I share ALL the obstacles I faced, the wisdom I gained and the challenges I overcame during the first year of going alcohol-free.
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1 年Writing down my core values immensely helped me a lot Nigel Jones My purpose became clear & bright with less confusions.