If your tongue is positive, world will love you

Imagine that I understand where you're coming from. I think just about everyone has had this experience at least once: falling for someone who isn't available, or who doesn't reciprocate. It does hurt quite badly, and I feel for you. It's a kind of hell on earth. If when you say "Is there hope?" you mean is there hope this woman will be yours someday, I discourage you from holding out for that. Be positive while talking with people and you can win hearts of the people you are interacting with, believe me.

The chances of it happening are almost nil, I'd say, and by holding on to that hope can only bring more pain. You say she's happily married. I'd say this woman is not for you, and the sooner you let go of the last shred of that hope, the sooner you'll be restored to sanity...and be a lot happier. I commend you for changing jobs precisely to remove yourself from the hopeless situation. You're on the right track. Keep going in that direction. Distance yourself from any kind of contact with or exposure to the person but be positive and maintain the safe distance to improve the connection in some time later.

As hard as it will be, you need to keep yourself from doing anything to see her or talk to her. If you find yourself thinking up excuses to see or talk to her, get over the thought as quick as you can. What you have is similar to an addiction. The crazy addict in you who craves a fix desperately is shrewd and devious. He will try to trick your mind into going along with the scheme to get his fix. This is a little devil and it doesn't have your interest at heart. It's a totally self-absorbed entity with a single-minded purpose, no matter who gets hurt (you) or what the cost. But in your heart of hearts you still are very positive in your talks.

And to tell you that I went through this thing more than once. Something that worked for me was training my brain to recognize when my thoughts were going in the direction of obsessing and immediately stopping myself to redirect my thoughts to something else, something productive. Because of its similarity to an addiction, this period of enforced separation will be like the withdrawal an addict feels when going off the stuff.

It might be miserable and it will take tremendous willpower and discipline to get through it, but you can do it. You must keep telling yourself this is strong medicine but it will make me well again and I'll feel so much better when I make it over the other side. I will have peace again, and I will own my own soul because I kept my belief in being positive all the time and more.

Some get through it surprisingly fast. You might be one of those lucky ones. Others struggle a lot longer. There's no prediction. The important thing to remind yourself is that you can and will get there, eventually. You will get over her. You will be free from the pain. You will get your life back and you can be happy.

Imagine an infatuation as a fire and every time you speak to this girl and she is sweet to you or says something complimentary to you, it's like she is throwing logs into the fire and fueling your desire. So, if this is doing more damage that good in your life, you should stop talking to her all together and that alone will really help the situation. Some infatuations can give you a drive in life and add an adrenaline and excitement to waking up everyday.

As that goes on, yes, there is plenty of hope. No matter how hooked on this person you are--or think you are--you can get over her. The human heart is resilient and it's meant to heal from the pain of losing love, or loving someone you can't have. Give your heart the chance and time to heal and it will. This I know. Stay strong and be positive in your talks all along.

One solution is to understand how and why people want constant contact. People generally like to be around others who make them feel good. Single people may be looking for a partner. Married people may be flattered by the attention. Most people have poor skills when it come to understanding boundaries. Once you understand this you can learn from the experience and pursue new friendships.

Therefore, pursue new friends who make you feel good but ensure this is reciprocal. Be clear about establishing new friendships for yourself, focus on finding friends not a new partner, the new partner may arrive with new networks so you will also gain more friends. Finally boundaries are most important and often not understood, so people cross boundaries and encourage a close relationship to develop when they are already in a relationship. Likewise you could learn from this that it is much healthier to develop a close relationship with a person who also has a positive outlook toward life as you have and you can have a healthy exchange of thoughts between the two of you for long term. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre #possessedbywritingspirit