Your silent presence is more powerful!

"Silent Presence Is More Powerful Than A Million Empty Words" Golden words of Thema Davis

In life situations, we have often seen that when someone is going through rough time like a sudden storm or is struggling due to some issues, your silent presence is more useful to him rather than a million empty words spoken out of sympathy. Just letting someone know that you are there for them by holding a safe and sacred space around them is, sometimes, all that they need. However, this can be very difficult to handle for many of us. We naturally, don’t like just 'silence' around, we need solid words to support us. Just think about when you had your last conversation with someone. Whenever there is a big pause in the conversation, someone has to jump in quickly because there is this anxious feeling reeling in the air. The void like this one feels like it has to be filled. At other times, we feel as though we need to fix something so, again, we jump in hastily into conclusions.

The moment is so precious to us that we need to fill this space somehow. Nevertheless, when you fill in this space by giving advice or making comments, trying to fix something for some one or trying to alleviate your anxiety, you take away their moment to feel the emotions and to heal. Instead, they move out of their body, their feeling and emotions, to hear and think what you are saying. Of course, they are no longer in present or in silent presence. You just completed a form of distraction and avoidance for them, but for you, too it matters a lot.

It is finally a point of giving space to someone. There is this time and place to distract or avoid, but when someone is grieving or sifting through confusing emotions that arise from the memories of a traumatic event, for instance, it is, true sometimes, best just to listen and give them space – your silent presence. Remember, it is all about them; it is not about you and your anxiousness or uncomfortable feelings in this moment. When someone is feeling down or going through a tough time it is important to take them seriously. Give the person space to explain what they are going through. Let them tell you how they feel. Avoid rejecting the person's experiences and feelings

When people are actually struggling, they often make themselves feel worse by placing unrealistic expectations on themselves. They beat themselves up for having a problem and feeling unable to cope with it. It is therefore necessary to remind your loved one that they are no less of a person just because they are facing something challenging right now. You love them and will support them in good times and bad. Remind them that others have had this problem, and that they already have found a way through it. Just knowing that they are not alone can help them feel less lonely and more hopeful. Encourage your loved one to join a support group or forum if found appropriate. It’s fine to initially express anger and frustration, but wallowing in feelings of unfairness or blame will make them feel worse and wastes their energy.

It is true that wisdom, strength and resilience can all be built from the foundations of tough times. Help your loved one to see how they’re growing as a person, even if they feel like they’re going through hell. But, in reality, nothing lasts forever ? not even the most horrible emotions or the direst circumstances. It is all very temporary in nature and won't last longer.In the end, when someone is going through a storm, your silent presence is more powerful than a million empty words. Stay Blessed and Stay Stronger! #kishoreshintre