Your Relationship Health checklist

In this article you will learn the following

-32 most essential elements for an utmost fulfilling and happy relationship ?

-45 signs if your relationship is unhealthily or negative - from both aggressors as well as aggrieved perspective

-33 ways to give attention to your partner - how to improve your relationship

?100 Signs of healthy and unhealthy relationships

?Healthy relationship are those - where you feel secure, safe, valued, trusted and is mutually growth-oriented.

?When your partner is going through dark phases of his or her life - you can create positive meaningful difference in their life - by trying to fulfill - their needs for attention and affection.

?This can be further expanded to include - acceptance, appreciation, guidance, direction and compassion - to help them beat the blues.

?The type of relationships that you have currently as well as attract in future - would largely depends on - how you were loved and treated by the important figures of your life while growing up as well as type of intimate relationships you observed.

?Someone who was not valued, respected and loved in healthy ways - grows-up into an emotionally-insecure and emotionally-immature adult and - may find their relationships being much less than healthy, happy and fulfilling.

?32 most essential elements for an utmost fulfilling and happy relationship ?

?1.???Focusing more on interdependence than co-dependency

2.??Fostering a nurturing space for both the partners to maintain their own self-identity through a separate social-circle, interests-hobbies-passions

3.??Spending time together in such a way that makes both feel valued and which adds growth-value to both

4.??Has communication - having difficult conversations honestly-assertively-respectfully

5.??Resolving conflict in healthy manner

6.??Taking initiative to clear misunderstanding

7.??Freedom to say no - when does not like something - without your partner feeling hurt

8.??Handling tough-issues assertively and openly

9.??Supporting each other and standing-by - whenever needed

10.??????????????Cheering each other - when the other is going through negative phases

11.??????????????Developing understanding to accept your partner as they are as a whole - with their flaws, insecurities and also positive qualities [accepting the other yet wishing that they change certain aspects of how they act is definitely ok - healthy relationship is all about mutual agreements and healthy negotiating}

12.??????????????No intent or attempt to dominate or control the other person

13.??????????????Appreciation, recognition and acknowledgement of each other’s contributions in the relationship

14.??????????????Understanding and using of each other’s language of love [we all love in different ways - we express and show affection in different ways -we expect to receive love in different ways]

15.??????????????Display of affection and compassion including PDAs

16.??????????????Giving attention to your partner rather than hogging limelight

17.??????????????Giving importance to each other’s feelings

18.??????????????Conveying that your partner is important to you and that you understand and appreciate their needs

19.??????????????Able to express deepest fears, anxieties and concerns without inhibitions

20.??????????????Empathic listening

21.??????????????Expressing and sharing feelings openly and respectfully

22.??????????????Respecting each other’s boundaries

23.??????????????Playfulness and being naughty

24.??????????????Ensuring in pillow-talks or talking-dirty

25.??????????????Encouraging your partner to bloom into who they are

26.??????????????Being yourself and being comfortable with being yourself especially with your partner

27.??????????????Having fulfilling physical and emotional intimacy

28.??????????????Allowing each other to be who you both are - to exhibit their less-than-perfect side

29.??????????????Allowed to feel how they feel after disagreements and conflicts

30.??????????????Allowed to express their own needs and wishes without fear of judgement, contempt or ridicule from the other

31.??????????????Able to be vulnerable without fear of getting ridiculed

32.??????????????Asking to clarify about the kind of love you need - by simply saying show me how to love you better or how to make you feel great or how to make you feel the most loved [man or woman]

?45 signs if your relationship is unhealthily or negative - from both aggressors as well as aggrieved perspective

?1.??Requiring another person’s constant and undivided attention

2.??Depending on your partner in order to feel complete

3.??Attaching your wellbeing, happiness and satisfaction with your partner

4.??Trying to keep your partner 24x7 with you

5.??Suffocating your partner with your demands

6.??Wanting 100% attention of your partner 24x7

7.??Being suspicious and jealous of all your partner’s contact and professional-family-social relationships

8.??Creating and thriving on drama

9.??Throwing tantrums

10.??????????????Playing victim

11.??????????????Blaming your partner for all the wrong happening in the relationship

12.??????????????Taking your partner for granted

13.??????????????Letting your partner do all the nurturing

14.??????????????Engaging in emotional-blackmail - using your vulnerabilities and weaknesses

15.??????????????Focus on changing your partner

16.??????????????Violating your partner’s basic boundaries of dignity and respect

17.??????????????Seeking your partner’s attention, approval and validation for things that are your own private

18.??????????????Trying to please your partner while ignoring your own basic needs

19.??????????????Demanding that the other person behaves and act the way you want him or her to be

20.??????????????Compromising vital aspects of yourself

21.??????????????Losing your self-identity

22.??????????????Scared to challenge and ask

23.??????????????Letting your partner take you for granted

24.??????????????Feeling unappreciated

25.??????????????Avoiding confrontations and conversations

26.??????????????Expecting your partner to read your mind without telling him or her what is in your mind or what you want or how you feel

27.??????????????Feel scared of your partner’s reactions and outbursts

28.??????????????Your partner controls who you meet and where you go

29.??????????????You are scared to go to social visits with your partner as you will get laughed-at insultingly

30.??????????????Your self-esteem has reached such-lows that - you beg for love, attention and other such natural-relationship elements from your partner??

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