Your Pressure Will Go Somewhere
O.L. Buckley
Leadership Coaching for Married Entrepreneurs who struggle w/prioritizing their marriage while scaling the business?
This is for the husband who wants to avoid the drama that often comes with expressing what he really thinks. So he prefers the pressure of silence vs. the pressure that comes with venting.
Here's what I'm covering:
Pressure has to go somewhere.
Men get tired, too.
Yes, men get weary.
I know this isn't a truth bomb.
And while no reasonable person would challenge that truth, it doesn't make it any easier.
Why would I only say men when getting tired and weary?
Do women experience these feelings, of course!
Because men are often frowned upon (generally speaking) when giving voice to these feelings.
The expectation is consistency. Consistency is the virtue of strong leaders while being tired and weary are signs of those not yet ready for leadership.
If we're constantly being told the importance of consistency (which is extremely important) and not how to vent healthily, then some of us may become destructive. Self-destructive.?
Sports, cars, art, food, and the homies are some ways some of us vent.?
What about family, business, and marriage? How do we maintain consistency while leading responsibly and appropriately?
I have a few lessons from the trenches to offer insight into men being consistent and feeling free to vent responsibly. Here are a few nuggets from a guy who's worked since he was fourteen years old and has almost always held down more than one job since then.?
ONE:?Accept that pressure has to go somewhere. If we don't vent responsibly, then we'll explode toxically. Additionally, this can result in physical and health consequences.
The sooner we can accept this truth, the better we're positioned to get out in front of it.?
TWO:?Consistently communicate and acknowldge you're not sure about a matter or how to solve a certain problem. In fact, simply saying that you're not sure and would like more time to consider is one of the wisest ways to alleviate pressure. But we've got to do it consistently or we'll default into the 'sunken place' where things fester. Consistency is not about being perfect as much as it's about being honest.?
When being honest in real-time in your relationships (personally and professionally), you set the stage for being refreshed.?
THREE:?Hold yourself accountable and let others see you hold yourself responsible to speak up prudently and with confidence. Speak up doesn't speaking the solution-it simply means speaking honestly and with self-control.
Consistency indeed builds respect and trust.?But all consistency is built on a foundation of honesty.?It's called managing expectations and others.?
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FOUR:?Build margin. In other words, we need to build the margin between events, meetings, dating, and all the other million things we have to do. Margin keeps us from burning out and helps us insulate us from frustration. Going from one thing to the next without a 5,10,15 min buffer pressure builds and makes feel like the tail is wagging the dog. If you haven't noticed it yet, it's coming.
One quick step you can take today is to build your support library with books, articles, and other writings that focus on how to manage emotions with integrity and wisdom.?Here's a great resource to start with.
I'm in your corner fam.?
O.L
Client Spotlight: Meet Team Jackson: From Stagnant To Scaling In 30 Days
When we met Bily and Yoland Jackson, they were doing a coaching business together part-time. They were excellent at what they did but didn’t have the structure and business systems to scale their work.
They have a phenomenal story of?overcoming great adversity?individually and together. They had the skillset to bring transformation. In fact, they even had national visibility from a viral T.V. interview because of the amazing odds they overcame. However, they didn’t know how to turn that visibility into clients.
It was the lack of business savvy that was keeping them stagnant.
If you’re a marriedpreneur couple who can relate, keep reading and be inspired by their story!
Here’s how they went from stagnant to scaling:
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In a short time, they were able to have a several thousand-dollar launch on a part-time basis. The thing about the growth process is that you continue gradually growing from where you start once you become profitable.
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We wanted to share their story because if you’re doubting your call in business because of a lack of growth, it may not be your service or product; you may need a strategy that works.?If you’re a marriedpreneur couple that wants this kind of result, read below the different ways we can support you.
Here's how we can work together:
Here's to living purposefully, powerfully, and profitably in sync,?