Your perfectionism is a gift. Here's how to use it.
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What if conventional wisdom about perfectionism is wrong?
I’m a perfectionist. I know this about myself. I can be exacting to a fault, and come down too strongly when my very high standards aren’t met. And the person I come down on hardest? It’s myself, of course.
I think of perfectionism as a problem I have, a thing to fix. Couldn’t I just chill a little?
So I was excited to talk to Katherine Morgan Schafler. Katherine is a psychotherapist, and she’s developed a specialty in women who present outwardly as if they’re Doing it All…and often feel like they’re crumbling inside. Perfectionists.
Katherine's recent book is called The Perfectionists Guide to Losing Control . And she takes a novel and empowering approach to perfectionism. It’s not a beast to tame. It’s a tool we can put to use. But first, we have to understand it. In this episode, she asks us to rethink balance in our lives. She offers us a framework to better understand our own relationship to perfectionism. Spoiler: there are a lot of different ways to be a perfectionist! And she invites us to identify what we want–what we actually want–and move toward it.?You can find it here , or right below:
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Retired Optometric physician
1 个月I have been a perfectionist all my life with underlying OCD. It hampered my timliness in patient care when I was practicing. It has persisted in my retirement in the form of home repair, etc. Now, I leave a small and intentional “defect” after each repair which is imperceptible to a normal person. It’s a way for me to remain in control but without the obvious OCD component. It’s a damn curse alright!
Interim Chief Executive Officer at Harry Fields international
1 个月You got to love it Jesse we all have time to think we're perfectionist I'm an older guy you know and I'm getting ready to set the world on fire with releasing my songs after many years and my dream coming true I was a perfectionist my whole life finally learned that got to stop and smell the roses slow down can't change your destiny and you're so intelligent that all you got to do is relax don't let your brain overload you just imagine that you're a star way up there looking at the Earth and then try to find you in that conversation of people and buildings everybody's in a hurry relax take a couple deep breaths think of something present and then hit it again it no matter how it works when you are as smart as you are and the way you express yourself you're going to get it anyway cuz God's going to give it to you I really enjoy your writings and I wish you the best of success my thing is everybody on here is so intelligent I just wish I could meet every one of you and just take one little piece with me to the next place I landed yours truly Mr Harry fields legend in country music dreamcatcher and God based
Sales Specialist @ NirvanaAI | Business Negotiation, Knowledge Graphs
2 个月Everyone wants to do a good job, but perfectionists take this to the extreme. It is when one refuses to accept anything less than perfection that they cross the line into perfectionism. I framed it as a negative here, because when it hampers your performance and views about yourself, thats exactly what it is: a negative.
Senior Fellow at Rio Grande Foundation
2 个月Learning from from one’s mistakes is a positive expression of perfectionism. The many external sources of responses to one’s actions are sources of information for refining subsequent responses.
Senior Accounts Payable, Convergix
2 个月A great listen and so relatable to this perfectionist!