Be your own judge before judging others

Once upon a time, there was a small town. There lived a man by himself who couldn’t see. He was blind. Yet, he carried a lighted lamp with him whenever he went out at night. One night as he was coming home after having dinner outside, he came across a group of young travelers. They saw that he was blind, yet carrying a lighted lamp. They started passing comments on him and made fun of him. One of them asked him, “Hey Man! You are blind and can’t see anything! Why do you carry the lamp then?!”

The blind man replied, “Yes, unfortunately, I am blind and I can’t see anything but a lighted lamp which I am carrying is for the people like you who can see. You may not see the blind man coming and end up pushing me. That is why I carry a lighted lamp”. The group of travelers felt ashamed and apologized for their behavior.

Don't think of anything while judging. Do it with a free & unbiased mind. You have the complete right to judge someone . Just don't shove your nonsense blatant opinion (which is made after judging) in their throat. Everybody is a judge here & I think there is no harm in it. Just do it in moderation. Why it is not bad - Let's understand it by example - I got a message like this, ‘can we become good friends?’ - how I decided whether I will reply or not:— I checked her asked questions from her feed. If I found that her questions are good & are of my type then I would talk to her otherwise I would ignore her.

I never told this methodology to her. I didn't shove my opinion, but I do judge. Why I choose this methodology - The art of proposing a question must be held of higher value than solving it.” – Georg Cantor A prudent question is one-half of wisdom.” – Francis Bacon Use this methodology when you date or marry someone. I guarantee you, you will end up with a great person. Would you like to be commented on by a person who knows very less about u? I don't think so. Every person has their own likes and dislikes. We all are unique for our attitude, behavior and aspirations. None of our fingers is alike.

Likewise, no one in this world has exactly the same notions as you do. So, it wouldn't be right on our part to judge someone based on our idea of an individual. Well, we are not photographs to be picture perfect. We all are paintings… not perfect yet the most beautiful creations. So, let's learn to appreciate the beauty of the hidden colours rather than commenting on the frames.

Because a word once uttered is uttered. You can’t repair what you did. Example 1: He never talks to anyone. Such an arrogant fellow. What if he had lost a dear one and is surviving with that trauma which caused him to detach himself from others? Example 2: He always smiles and laughs even for the silliest of joke. Pity. What if he has some inexplicable pain in his heart and that makes him laugh even for the smallest of things? Example 3: That extroverted girl is divorced. Perhaps she must have disrespected her husband and in laws. Who will marry her again? What if that extroverted girl faced dowry harassment and was divorced because she spoke for herself and her parents? Words are like glass. Once broke, its broke. You can fix it, but can’t undo the damage, can you? Cheers!