Is your Operating Systems hurting your marriage? 2

FAMILY LIFE TODAY 

Is your Operating Systems hurting your marriage? 2

Your operating system is the unconsciously installed program that governs your interpretation of data and ultimate influence what you accept, delete, distort and even generalize.

For example a man whose entire life’s experience, upbringing and society showcased men who cook and wash dishes as weaklings and equates that to being female will fight with his last blood a wife who expects him to cook.

He’s never even pause to ask himself how the world reached that conclusion and he’d delete several male chefs he has met in his life. He will proudly hoist the banner of his culture without seeking to find out the people that made the law and their level of exposure.

Fast forward the same man going for post grad studies in the UK surrounded by men who cook and consider it a romantic thing to do for one’s family. He’d start cooking because he doesn’t want to be perceived as unromantic. 

Same man in two different culture yet two contrasting behavior.

The question that begs for answer would be who exactly is this man and what exactly is his beliefs?

One of the greatest crisis in our human development today is distance between what people have been conditioned to believe, what they think they believe and the belief that should actually drive their destiny.

Is what you believe strong enough to take you to where you actually desire to go?

To be continued

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