Your Mother Was Wrong About One Thing…

“Words Will Never Hurt You…,” Is a Total Lie, But the Pain is Real and the Suffering Permanent.

Remember, when you were five years old, and the first time you got beat up and shouted at on the playground by some kid you didn’t even know? Mom and Dad or Grandma and Grandpa said, “There, there…sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you!”. By age nine you knew this was a total lie. Abusive, Demeaning, Uncivil, Unconscionable Language and Accusations victimize, producing hidden wounds that last a lifetime.

When those words and deeds come back to haunt the victims unless they say something, victims always suffer bitterly alone. That’s because wounds from words are:

• Bloodless
• Lifelong
• Invisible
• Irreversible
• Revictimizing
• Scarless
• Unhealable
• *Spontaneously Re-victimizing – Just overhearing someone talk about something awful can trigger your sudden devastating reliving of a prior personal experience of anger, fear, terror, and hurt.

*Sudden spontaneous re-victimizing is suffering when something outrageous in someone else’s life triggers terrible and painful memories from your own life. The anger, terror, fear, and hurt rush back, you can’t stop it. Whenever I talk about sexual harassment, for example, or assault, I assume that at least 40% of the female members in the audience are reliving something awful from their past life.

In Every Culture: There are words and behaviors you can never take back, words that cause lifetime victimization and suffering of others and yourself.There are those who use these words and deeds intentionally and devastatingly.

Here Is What I Believe and You Should Too

Appalling, questionable, inappropriate, unethical, unconscionable, immoral, predatory, improper, victim-producing, and criminal behaviors are intentional. Adults choose to harm, damage, embarrass, or victimize.

I Also Believe

Compassionate, decent, honorable, lawful behaviors, leadership decisions, and moral behaviors are also intentional.

You Already Know This

The choice is always clear and always yours.

Remember and Apply the Ingredients of Decency First

1. Keep this list handy near your phone, maybe in your wallet.
2. When you are tempted to say or do something that might be irritating or offensive, choose an ingredient of decency instead.

Avoid These Real Causes of Permanent Victimization

Even Worse are Unconscionable Behaviors

All are unethical, and most are also evil because their use is diabolically intended to harm and victimize the innocent.

Unconscionable intentions, behaviors, actions, and decisions are those that:

Speak Up

1. Unconscionable intentions, behaviors, actions, and decisions and their perpetrators need to be called out when you see them or hear of them.
2. Encourage other witnesses and victims to speak out with you. It’s the only way we can rid ourselves of these behaviors and the people who intentionally abuse us and others with them.

What Ever Happened to American Journalism?

The greatest change in our society is the absolute failure of Journalism to join the fight against intentionally unconscionable behavior.

It is plain and simply the failure to seek truth of any kind. The search every day is for likes and clicks and commercial space. Television has gone to commercial bundles of sometimes as many as ten commercials in a bundle, it’s just totally sick.

The money to Journalism from evil behavior is too good. Providing platforms for evil is the new Journalism.

We now live in a YOYO world. We (You) are On Your Own.

It is time for America to begin to put American Journalism on notice. Time to get back to truth-finding and stop promoting, endorsing, and sanctioning evil.

It may be already too late.

• If it’s horrible and terrible, it gets front-page coverage and days of panel discussions on television programs.
• If it’s good, the goal of Journalism has been for now almost two decades or even longer, that these things must be destroyed.
• If good things are accomplished, past failures are dug up to destroy any positive value. Liars, provocateurs, and evil get top billing.
• Anyone who ventures forth to explore what I’ve just talked about is vilified, humiliated, and destroyed.
• We may find out the answer to the most important question facing American society today: How long can democracy last as it is disassembled and disabled every day?

We may have that answer in less than three weeks.