Your Mess, Your Responsibility

You made a promise and didn’t keep it, or you said something that damaged feelings. Whatever the problem is between you and your friend, a well-crafted apology might repair the relationship.

Take full responsibility for what you did or didn’t do and do so as soon as you realize that you were in the wrong.

Everyone does something that requires an apology to acknowledge a wrong and move forward.

Make every effort to extend an apology with integrity, no matter what extenuating circumstances contributed to the situation,

Your acceptance of responsibility and desire to fix the problem will identify you as a person of integrity.

No “Ifs” or “Buts”

Avoid using “if” or “but" in your apology, Using “if” or “but” diminishes your apology, making it sound half-hearted. Keep your apology simple and succinct -- just the facts.

Acknowledge that your actions affected your friend and could have created negative emotions such as anger, frustration and anxiety

Do not discuss your friend’s behaviour in relation to your actions with comments such as, "Your attitude made me angry" or "I wouldn't have done what I did if you hadn't done that." Those words only serve to shift the blame.

Everyone does something that requires an apology to acknowledge a wrong and move forward.

Make every effort to extend an apology with integrity, no matter what extenuating circumstances.

Your acceptance of responsibility and desire to fix the problem will identify you as a person of integrity.

Remorse and Repair

Express remorse and detail how you will prevent a recurrence. Find some way to fix or reduce the consequences of your actions as quickly as possible.

Tell your friend that you will avoid making promises you can’t keep so she feels that she can rely on your word.

Forgiveness is Optional

Never make your friend feel guilty or insinuate that your friend must forgive you because you apologized. It might take a while for your friend to settle down and feel forgiving.

 Acknowledge that some hurts are easier to forgive and you are willing to accept that he might not ever forgive you.

Thank him for listening to you and leave the outcome of your friendship in his hands. It’s possible that he will quickly accept and forgive, but that shouldn’t motivate your apology. Your motivation should be to acknowledge and repair the wrong.

It's quite common for people to overreact when they're frustrated in the middle of a fight with their significant other.

Girls have a tendency to get super emotional with their boyfriends, and sometimes fight about the silliest things.

Men on the other hand can get super rude and say stuff they don't actually mean in the heat of the moment. If you've gone too far during a fight with your boyfriend... don't worry, we've all been there.

Getting your boyfriend (ex-boyfriend) back after a fight isn't as impossible as some people make it out to be!

It may take some work and you may have to put aside your pride, but with good timing and strategy, you can win him back!

Being critical will make them feel like you're not on their side so it's important to be gentle, even when you're not talking about how you've hurt them.

Criticism is a sure-fire way to erode connection in relationship  For one thing, it makes both of you feel less loving towards one another. And, secondly, it almost always ends in your partner becoming defensive or shutting down. 

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Thank you … Acknowledge the Hurt

In repairing the loss of trust, it’s important that you acknowledge your boyfriend’s feelings.

He likely will feel hurt, betrayed, angry or any number of other emotions. If you dismiss or deny his pain, his pain continue to grow and it decreases the chance that trust will be regained.

Listen to how your boyfriend feels, be willing to answer any questions and express regret for your behaviour.

If you don’t acknowledge your behaviour and show remorse and compassion for your actions, your boyfriend might feel that you don’t understand his pain and you might not regain his trust.

Perhaps you told your boyfriend a lie, repeated something told in confidence or kissed someone else.

Regardless, your behaviour cost you your boyfriend’s trust, which is a vital part of a healthy relationship.

Gaining his trust back is possible, but it will take commitment, time and effort to rebuild the lost trust.

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Confessing Your Actions

Confess how you violated her trust and accept responsibility for the destruction of her sense of safety, security, respect, love and friendship. She will want to know why you violated her trust. Answer her questions to the best of your knowledge.

Do not lie or blame her or anyone else for what you did. Take full responsibility for your actions.

Describe not only your actions, but also the consequences of your actions on others, such as shame, loss of employment or financial loss. However, if there are details that will cause her more pain, you might omit them.

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Trust is the cornerstone of any successful relationship, you can break your girlfriend’s trust in various ways, such as lying, anger, addictions, infidelity, flirting, abuse or violating her confidence.

If you've lost your girlfriend's trust, you'll have to work hard to regain it, if she is willing to forgive you.

Say What You Mean, and Mean What You Say

After submitting your sincere apology, ask your partner what you can do to further atone for your blunder, and then do it with a smile.

Your partner may or may not accept your apology; do not pressure your partner to do so. A surprise such as dinner at your partner’s favourite restaurant or movie tickets may not hurt, but gifts are never a substitute for a heartfelt apology.

Everyone makes mistakes, and some may affect your partner. Admitting that you were wrong and apologizing for it seems simple enough.

Although a sincere apology can serve as healing balm for a bruised relationship, an insincere apology can inflict harm,

Go Ahead, Say you’re Sorry. Make the effort to give your partner a heartfelt, appropriate apology when you’re wrong.

Good Medicine

A lovingly executed apology is a wise investment in your relationship. It repairs the damage inflicted by your mistake, rejuvenates your relationship and enhances the level of trust with your partner.

Apologizing doesn’t signal weakness.

Don’t let your pride and fear of shame prevent you from embarking on an opportunity to strengthen your relationship

You demonstrate strength and a commitment to the relationship when you acknowledge your mistakes.