Your Meaning Matters ??

So often we move into our minds and find our own meaning to our external world.

So often, the meaning we provide, is quite simply , well, incorrect.?

As I was pruning this tree, I found a nest, so left the job incomplete, to return at a later date.

It looks much like Bart Simpon's hair and is in my front garden ??

So far, I have been asked? ?

?? Did you run out of puff?

?? Do you need better tools? Did you want to borrow some??

?? Are you being creative? What shape are you making? (from an artist)?

Now this topic is unimportant and a bit of fun, however, how many times have you packed your overthinking bag, or situation suitcase and moved into your mind for far too long??

Your Meaning Matters

?Does your colleague really not like you, or are they overwhelmed with other things??

? Is the car in-front of you really trying to get on your nerves, or are they late for an appointment and overly stressed??

? Does your boss really dislike you and is disrespecting you, or do they give you more work because they value your input??

? Did your friend really avoid you at the shops, or were they completely zoned out and didn’t even see you??

? Did they really mean that when they text this, or……. ?

? Do my neighbours really think I’m easily worn out and under-tooled, or are they friendly, comfortable to come and chat with me and that was their catalyst??

So much of our day either doesn’t need assigned meaning, or we need more information before we can truly assign it.?

"Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter" Bernard Baruch

We have all heard this phrase…but how do you apply it into your life??

First of all!

Many spend hours overthinking about what others think of us and our behaviours.

Two points here:

1 - If you assign meaning, are you overthinking about what you perceive they think??

So it really doesn't matter...??

Or

2 - Do you know this is what they really think?

Does that really matter anyway??

You can see how this can become muddled in the mind. It is said that you never send an over thinker or a person with ADHD the message…”Can you call? Need to talk”?

The overthinking mind will go into overdrive and logic is not invited.?

Question Clutter

Have you left a meeting or an event only to create chaos in your mind and body??

Did I upset them??

Did I offend them??

Was I too much??

I can’t believe I said that, should I apologise?

Do they think……??

First Ask: ??

Does it matter??

Do I know this to be absolutely true??

If it matters and there isn’t enough information, ask questions…..communicate?

Then deal with real ??

If it is true…

Can it be changed??

Can the course be corrected??

You may be surprised what some real awareness, a sincere apology, some genuine communication and changed behaviour can do ??

Pack your curiosity case instead of your disapproving and difficult duffel, and free yourself from the margins in your mind.?

Only assign your matter, to matters that are real, for those that really matter ??

Yours in Health

Nant Nissen

Founder of We Hub - Communities that change the world

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Yours in Health

Nant