Your marriage should be your key support system. Is it?
Olga Kniazeva, PhD
Detoxifying Marriages. Solving Major Life Problems. Reshaping Success. For High-Achieving, Accomplished Type A Personalities and Their Partners. Over 70 Video Testimonials from Elite Performers.
For many people January and February is the time to face and re-evaluate the status of their most important relationship - their marriage. The holiday season with all the family dinners and more time spent together at home or travelling with the spouse and the kids may bring some of the underlying tensions to the surface. And the Valentine's day puts it front and centre - what kind of a relationship are you currently in? Do you have fun? Are you excited to spend time with you partner, or does it feel like a chore? Did you enjoy a romantic dinner or getaway? Or are you sitting in front of each other, not knowing where to start, or worried that you might step in one of those landmines in your conversation?
Statistics show that 50% of marriages end up in divorce. I am not sure of the exact number, but I am almost 100% sure that you can think of someone who would need to read this post.
For business families particularly, a lot of challenges may arise in this area as conflicts around business and family dynamics can chip away from your relationship, your connection, or your intimacy.
Having worked with many entrepreneurs and professionals, we can tell you with certainty: your closest family circle, and particularly your marriage, is your most important support system.
As a high performing individual, your marriage should be a source of power...
You should be happy, feel loved, and feel love for your partner.
You should be happy to see each other after a long day at work.
You should have fun together.
You should be a team.
But sometimes, instead of being your key support system, your marriage can become a drain of your energy.
Many couples succumb to a devastating reality: while they start off great, as the years go by, they find themselves living in a marriage where love, appreciation, and attention no longer go both ways.
They are unhappy and living like two business partners who are taking care of the kids and doing what needs to get done instead of connecting and supporting each other on a deep level.
They may be putting on a happy face when in public, with friends, or family... But behind closed doors it's a completely different story.
Each person feels hurt, upset, sad, and angry.
It’s a draining and exhausting experience that impacts every area of their lives.
It impacts the way they are with friends and family, the way they feel inside, and the thoughts they have when they are alone.
It impacts their children.
People who are feeling stressed, uneasy, or unhappy in their marriages can't help but take that stress everywhere else in their lives, including their work.
If this is how your relationship feels, the next step is to ask yourself if you are willing to give it one last try.
Maybe you aren’t, and that’s ok. It’s your life and maybe you just want to throw in the towel.
But if you want to give it one last chance, if you want to know if you can fall back in Love with each other again, if you want to become a team again, maybe we can help.
If you don't want to spend months and years in traditional marriage therapy, we offer is a completely different kind of solution for your Marriage.
We offer a program that works with both of you individually and enables you to transform into the best versions of yourselves, so that the sparks can re-ignite and attraction towards each other can come back naturally.
It's exactly 10 sessions, and every couple that has done our program together has fallen back in love, even if they were on the brink of divorce.
If you like those odds, click here to learn more.
Here is what our clients had to say:
“Nothing has ever been like this! We became like this couple that first fell in love... We’re a team now, we are working together, we bounce off each other”
– Nina, Mom, Vancouver, BC
“There’s no stress around us talking. There is us connecting, giggling, laughing, playing, you know, it’s completely like back when we were dating.”
– Rahim, CEO, Vancouver, BC
“I came here expecting to find a way… to end somewhat amicably a 35-year marriage. And now I’m not doing that. People that we know are looking at us and saying what kind of Kool-Aid are you two drinking.”
– Ginny, Vancouver, BC
"I hated my husband before, I didn’t wanna see his face, ever! And now... I love him, I do (crying) and… I like living with him. I was exhausted, I was depressed. I was angry, I was consumed with anger and I felt trapped… And now I feel free. I feel happy, I’m crying because I’m happy (crying)"
– Candice, Bowen Island, BC
"It has stopped all the bickering and all the confusion and all the attacks and all the… you know the little things that every marriage has, well, that’s not there anymore. And it’s so much more enjoyable to be around my wife and you can see it also in the children, which is just as important to me... yeah it’s just a one eighty."
– Miguel, Bowen Island, BC
Red Square Bakery Owner
4 年Great post Olga, very often business or high responsibility jobs create too much fracture in marriages , so what you do is magic !