Your Life's biggest Regret?

To have left him all alone…

You are a daughter, a sister and more than anything a wife of the most strongest person by heart and mind. I was a very playful and fun loving person who hated the concept of marriage. A girl leaving her parents, her house and her siblings and so many of her belongings to get married and move out with some stranger seemed so weird to me.

 I was disgusted to see many if my cousins who got married and moved out with their husband to some unknown country just cause the guy works there. But later they would take their parents along only during their pregnancy time as having a maid to do house hold chores was expensive. Parents were a mere replacement for them for maids.

For all the struggle that my parents have gone through 5o give me such an awesome life, I didn't want to get married like the others and move on without looking back. So I kept rejecting all the proposals that came in. But on my last birthday my dad received one proposal from some relative.

 He showed it to me with a lot of hesitation cause he knew I would reject that too. I saw the details and photo of the guy. Then it was my mom's turn to take up the topic in her own smart way. Emotional blackmail! She kept telling me day and night about that guy. I was so frustrated that I agreed to meet him.

Then came the day when the guy and his uncle and aunt would visit us. I made a big fuss about my attire. Mom and my sis wanted me to look completely traditional but I didn't wanna fake myself so I dressed up the way I always do.. nothing special or extraordinary. My parents had told me that the guy had lost his parents a year ago. I didn't bother to ask why and when cause I thought if I do then my parents will start having hopes that I'm interested in that guy so I ignored.

The guy entered my house. Decently dressed.. complete formals.. as though he's here for some official interview. Then mom offered them some snacks. All of them had and they were all busy talking. I looked at the guy hoping that he would talk something and as expected all the others started forcing us to talk to each other. The guy finally opened up and asked me…. “ ..was your final year project based on MATLAB or LAB VIEW?” …

How the hell should I react to this?! I wasn't really expecting such a nerdy question. I wasn't sitting in front of him for a job. I didn't know if I had to burst out laughing or just get up and walk away or just the him that I'm not his type so he should move on. Anyway I had to be a good girl cause my sis had promised me to take me out shopping and buy me anything I asked for only if I behaved well.. so I had to answer to him.

Later dad asked me to take him around and show him our house. So I did. We went to the terrace. He finally spoke some sense when we were there. He asked me about my religious views. He said he's an atheist. He spoke of all the achievements he had done and what all he had dreamt of doing. I started liking him. I know it seems weird but I don't know why I felt I should meet him again. I asked him about his parents. He was just like me.

He had never stayed away from his parents. But he lost his mom first in a fire accident. Then due to that shock his dad died just after a week afterhis mom's death. So in a span of one week he lost both his mom dad.

 No brothers and sisters to share this shock. He had decided that it's no use of him being in this world as he has nobody. But he remembered all the hard times his parents went through to get him to such a position. So at least for all that he thought he should live.

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Thank you …That one thought of his made my life more awesome. He is my husband now. We are happily married.

 I agreed to his proposal when he met me once more in a cafe and told me that I'm the only purpose of his life now.

I had tears in my eyes. He loves me so much that he even agreed to stay close to my parents house so that I could take care of him.

 He's been a great support to me and my parents. I feel jealous of him sometimes cause my parents take care of him so well than me now. But I feel good about it too.

So I have to take care of myself just for his sake cause if he loses me then he'llbe completely broken. I don't even want to think of death at this stage. I need to be with him till my last breath.

Want to add word or two?  

Only YOU can decide this for yourself.

My personal belief is that the people who “cross our path” are crossing it for a reason. I don’t believe in coincidence.

It’s keeping in mind that whoever steps into our life are there to “teach” us something, and bring experiences to us that we lack.

If a woman, or a man says, “It seem I’m always picking the wrong person to go into a relationship with. They all seem to have the same kinds of issues that show up later”. Then they aren’t learning from their experiences and life will send them the same lesson over and over until they DO learn.

How else do you explain those people that seem to have the same problem reoccur so often in their life ?

It’s because they remained ignorant to the lesson.

I hold to the philosophy that we are here to learn, and until we learn all we are supposed to know, we will continue to return until we do know it.

Have you ever noticed that when life gives you a challenge to overcome, and you succeed in doing it, that the next time something similar comes your way it is only a minor issue, if it’s an issue at all. You have LEARNED the lesson that life is trying to teach you.

Your comment ….?

So when you ignore a lesson, which will always happen if you choose to claim to be a “victim” who had no influence, choices or responsibilities in the outcome, you will believe having not done a single thing wrong you therefore have nothing to learn.

 It’s logical when you hear it, but it’s a way to avoid responsibility and ignore what you were being taught. Even if there is a truth to being more the victim, the lesson is still there to learn so you won’t become victim to the same thing again.

I watch in absolute fascination anymore at the timing of the comings and goings of the people in my life. What they bring with them, and what I give them to take away reflects directly upon the reason they appeared.

Though what you will learn is always a positive in your life, the lesson may be taught through a negative experience, and most often is.

Even if you don’t actually believe there is a reason, is it not a better way to approach even the random encounters of life?

When you look to learn from all of your experiences, you become a true student of life. Every time I sat in a class as a student,

 I listened closely, made a note of what struck me as important, and didn’t bring my emotions into the classroom. They made it harder to stay focused.

Whatever you decide you believe, give thought to becoming a student of life either way. There is always something we can learn for anyone, because our experiences are unique to ourselves. Nobody is smarter or better than anyone else.

To become the worlds recognized expert at something means you have devoted yourself to learning about it to the exclusion of so many other things. We are all just different and have things we can learn from, and teach to others we meet.

Good luck with your choice. What is right for YOU is the correct choice to make. Just make the most of it you can. What is right for ME may not be right for you. Know yourself and the choice will be clear.

Take care my friend.