Your Life, Your Rhythm.

Your Life Your Rhythm:?Being Yourself without apologies?

Life can be overwhelming. The pace of change is super-fast and relentless. It often seems like everyone else has a different rhythm to your own and that you’re struggling to keep up.?

Many men lose themselves in their personal and professional lives as a result of trying to live by other people’s standards. In most cases, it would be the standards of the closest people to them. This could be parents (yes, even in their 30s, 40s and 50s many men still act from a place of pleasing their parents instead of what they truly want in many areas in life), wives/partners, colleagues, friends, and people in the community. The problem is that when you measure your actions and success from the perspective of others, it’s easy to get lost. It’s almost a guaranteed path that leads to a feeling of self-doubt and not being good enough, an accumulation of anger and frustration, feeling lost, and difficulties in creating healthy and positive long-term relationships.?

It’s important to stop all that external noise and check-in with yourself with one simple question - what is it that I want??

To live a fulfilled life, you need to get to know yourself better. It’s about unplugging yourself from the voice of others and allowing yourself to spend time by yourself to allow your inner truth and your inner voice to bubble up. This can be a scary moment for many, because when you allow that truth to bubble up it can contradict the way you’ve lived your life in the last 10, 20, 30 or even more years. That’s why so many men avoid doing it. That moment is a crucial point where you need the right support to help you connect with your truth instead of taking what seems like an easier path of going back to familiar yet very unfulfilling habits.?

Most men don’t feel confident to share that truth that bubbles up with the people around them because of fear of hurting them and because it’s all too confusing. This is why surrounding yourself with the right environment and people is crucial. This point in your life can lead to a deep personal journey of discovery, and surprisingly, a personal journey of discovery can sometimes be much more effective when done in a group. This is where the AND THEN WHAT? Programme can make a huge impact to your life.?

Why do I need a personal journey of discovery?

We all have a personal journey that we are on in this world, so why not live it with a sense of purpose? You need to be living your life in accordance with who you really are deep down inside. This is what will make you happy!??

It’s time for you to embark on your own personal journey of discovery.?You will find the confidence to embrace who you truly are and that includes your vulnerability, emotions, and everything else. It's something that us men aren’t really that used to doing but it’s a crucial habit you must learn, and a muscle you need to exercise. I’ve been through the process myself.?

At first, I was scared to expose my vulnerability and afraid of the consequences of being ‘out there’ as my authentic self. It’s not an easy process but it is incredibly satisfying and enjoyable. You need to learn to love yourself: every bit of you. Be honest with who you are, what makes you happy, and only then will you be able to live life at your rhythm and share your truth with others.

How the AND THEN WHAT? programme will help you

How do I get to that point? In 2015 I was introduced to the concept of a group of men who meet regularly to encourage each other to embrace their vulnerability and gain the confidence to become better men in all aspects of life. I got involved and went on the most powerful journey of my life, which is why I then went on to create the AND THEN WHAT? programme so that I can share these experiences and revelations with other men who feel trapped and need to move forward.

AND THEN WHAT? provides a safe space free of judgement where you can explore and apply your vision of the man you want to be. It’s exciting, fun, even exhilarating, but it’s also challenging and involves honesty and a deep level of commitment.?

Based on the CROP? method, which is a system I created as a very simple, yet effective framework you will focus on nurturing and growing using a rich variety of tools that will help you to embrace your vulnerability and emotions and start living the life you deserve.

This system has been developed and honed over many years and remains an ongoing process of discovery. The CROP? method works in a cyclic pattern and with every cycle, you’ll experience deeper connections – with yourself and others – as well as a greater sense of purpose.

I've spent my whole life trying to be someone else, but I have finally come to the conclusion that it is just too exhausting." - F. Scott Fitzgerald?

You do you …

We men are under a lot of pressure; to be leaders, partners, fathers. It can be hard to live your own truth and do it at your own pace. Guided by an experienced facilitator, you’ll be joining a group of like-minded men on one of the most important journeys of your life. It's unsustainable to live your life with a rhythm dictated by others - you must live to your own beat and embrace who you are. It’s essential for our mental health and well-being to do things at our own pace.

To find out more about the AND THEN WHAT? programme, message me or take a look at my website.