Your Life Is the Outcome of Your Decisions
Meghan Freed
Co-Founder and Managing Partner @ Freed Marcroft LLC | Divorce Attorney and Relationship Thought Leader | Happiness Matters
In 2005, I left an unhappy marriage. In 2006, I left a job I hated and moved from the suburbs to Downtown Hartford because, although I am from the country, I’m not of the country. In 2009 I left another unhappy marriage. In 2012 I left a corporate gig and opened a divorce law firm with my now wife.
These decisions weren’t easy, but they were simple.
I made a totally different life by making a few, simple decisions.
Your life is the outcome of your decisions.
That’s it.
The choice to leave a career.
The choice to unmarry.
The choice to move to a place away from and unlike where you were raised.
The choice to start a business.
The choice to marry the right one.
We distract ourselves by focusing on a situation, but it doesn’t change this truth.
We say we don’t have enough saved to leave a job and open our own business. We say we can’t lose the benefits.
We say we love that person that we no longer love.
We say happiness is for other people, luckier people.
And by not taking responsibility, we cede control over our one life to the whims of circumstance.
We say “It’s not my fault, that’s just the way it is.” We even say it in different languages, “c'est la vie.”
This allows us to pretend we have no decisions, and excuses us from making the decisions we should make.
In every situation, there are endless options open to us, yet we don’t even identify them, let alone evaluate them. We fall back on non-decision.
And we fail to realize that not making a decision is a decision. Every single time. Letting the world happen to us and staying where we are is a decision. Every single time.
These non-decision decisions, leaving you in the town, the job, the marriage, are exactly the reason you are now exactly where you are.
If you like that place, carry on.
If you don’t, stop.
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6 年Good read. I especially like what was said about non-decisions. The song Free Will, by the band Rush said “If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice”. We need to decide and then act. The one item that I’d add is the grass is not always greener on the other side. Sometimes the decisions we make needs to be to water the brown grass where we stand. Modify what we are doing, put forth a little more effort and the grass can come up green again.
Special Education Teacher at Melrose High School
6 年Amazing!