Your Life Begins When You Stop Doubting?Yourself
Many times mothers are left with no other option than to settle in their family. They give up their carrier to become stay home mothers.
In Chinese, the word “mother” is closely connected with sacrifice and “signifies an ability to consider other people as a priority.”
Mothers are expected to be sweet, gentle, and willing to sacrifice themselves for the peace of their families. If she does not meet these expectations, she is not fit to be called a mother.
Motherhood is seen as a kind of cultural oppression in which mothers learn that sacrifice is a good thing while considering themselves important is a bad thing.
The reason behind women’s bondage is not their ability to procreate, but the patriarchal system that dominated women’s rights in politics and the economy.
Battling morning sickness and general feelings of weakness, I remember getting through the early stage of motherhood by “sheer willpower”.
I never believed I could become a responsible mother when I found out I was pregnant. I had my daughter, eight months after my accident. I had to navigate the first three years of motherhood as a disabled mother.
That was the most challenging time I have experienced. I had no degree, no job, no experience in motherhood and I was battling depression on top of it.
I was lucky to have a supportive family but my siblings were in boarding school and my mum was a teacher. So during work days, I’m usually alone with my daughter. Sometimes I call my friends to come around.
On the days no one was at home, I took care of my daughter by myself. I learned how to bathe my baby in bathing bowls when she poops. If she was crying, I would tie her in front of me, sit in the wheelchair while I prepared her food, or tried to put her to sleep.
It was during this time I realized that motherhood is a potential for creativity and happiness.
As I made my way to recovery, I started worrying about the life I can offer my daughter. I had dropped out of school with no penny in my account. I needed to make a choice between completing my education or getting a job.
I chose to complete my education. I got my degree in Business Mgt and now I have my own business. I chose to defeat my fears and I unlocked the key to my success.
Mothers often face a dilemma between pursuing their careers or raising their children. Those who choose both struggle to keep up with the financial expenses and emotional stability more. But our sacrifices are rewarded by the smile and warmth of our child/children.
Why you should trust in yourself during your darkest?times
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"It is the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen."— Muhammad Ali
The role of motherhood is very challenging because she is raising her children and setting an example for them to emulate. There are times we doubt ourselves and days we want to run from the pressure of being a role model.
You feel guilty when you cannot provide what your child wants because you are on a tight budget. Nothing makes a mother feel terrible than telling her child that she can’t fulfill her wish.
We all have self-doubts, not just mothers. When faced with a new or challenging situation, we fear we will fail and disappoint those who look up to us.
Self-doubt is characterized by fear of failure or uncertainty about one or more aspects of oneself.
If self-doubt is keeping you from taking a step forward in your career, remember that you are human. You don’t have to punish yourself for your past mistakes or failures.
We all make mistakes as we grow, and through those mistakes and failures, we learn and become wiser.
When we doubt our abilities, it’s often because we don’t want to make mistakes. However, mistakes are necessary on the ladder to success.
We can reduce self-doubt and performance anxiety by practicing being kind to ourselves, regardless of the outcome.
You can’t really trust anyone else, at least not 100 percent of the time, so it’s important to trust yourself if you want to accomplish anything. If you learn to trust yourself, you will naturally become more confident over time.
Trust is one of the best ways to ensure professional development. A high level of self-confidence opens doors you never knew existed.
By being able to communicate well with people, which is often a recipe for trust, people will want to go into partnership with you.
Trusting that you can do better and that one mistake is not the end will help you a lot in your career and in your personal life. Believe in yourself and your mistakes will be nothing more than a step forward on the radar of your journey.
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