Are your kids feeling safe?

One night this week I came home early evening, and as I turned the familiar corner into our street, there was a large family of deer - about 10-12 of them! I am always in awe when I spot wildlife... and now I always look out for them.

Today on my way home I knew they wouldn't be there, as it was still light outside - and it triggered this train of thoughts around safety for me.

Now, isn't it interesting that deer usually feel safer when the sun goes down - and for me it's the polar opposite? Yes, at my age, I still have moments where I'm scared in the dark. Or am I?

Ok, so I'm not actually scared of the dark - it is more the fear of the unknown - the things we don't see - that's what activates our imagination and allows it to run wild. #gallop

So, why am I sharing this with you?

When my husband died, one of the most important things for me, was to not only keep our kids safe - I wanted them to feel safe; and for that, I had to feel safe too!

I pushed our bed in one corner - it made me feel cradled in, and therefore safer. Every night I checked the front and back door, to ensure they were both locked before I went to bed. My senses became lasersharp, and my intuition went through the roof.

I was also highly aware, that I didn't want to turn into a helicopter mum - it was super tricky for me to find the right balance.

When children experience adversity, little things make a huge difference. I noticed them, I observed their behaviour, their responses, their needs.

When a family grieves together, it is so important to find somebody to hold space for you, so all of you can feel safe - and you all can share safely in that space.

I remember distinctly, listening to my boys sharing about their dad's passing for the first time... it was emotional for us, and of utmost importance.

I'd love to have that conversation with you - if your family has experienced adversity, and you are in need for somebody to create that sacred space for you, please arrange a chat with me. I've got you.

Feeling safe is one of our core human needs. Even more so when you have lived through emotional distress. It would be my honour to help you get back to safety!

Have a wonderful weekend.

With Love

Marie x

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