Your Inner Circle

If you constantly surround yourself with negative people, you are probably also a negative person.

How does that statement grab you? I am just throwing it out there for several reasons:

• How is your mood every day?
• Who influences those emotions?
• How well do you know your inner circle, those people closest to you?

Simple questions really, but do we ever give those any serious thoughts or are we too busy blaming everybody and everything around us for all that is wrong in our lives?

If you really want to know what your life is like, look at the 5 to 10 people closest to you, and it is likely you live a similar life. Don’t jump down my throat and protest about it. That is generally where people are at, in many areas of their lives.

If the way you live your life is influenced by your inner circle, you might have to have a close look at that circle and, if you do not like what you discover, change it.

“Oh, that’s easy for you to say. I can not…and then the excuses start to come..”

I am not telling you that you must make those changes, but at least be aware of the influence those people have on your life….or should I say, the influence you allow them to have on your life. Yes, you heard that right; it’s always a choice.

When I look at some of the people I hold dear and who are close to me, I feel privileged to have them within reach at all times, even though I might not be with all of them as much as I would like. I have also gained some other ones over the last few years here in South Africa. There are also people who, at one point were close, but are no longer around and that’s ok, that’s a natural process that sometimes happens.

“Some people are with you for a reason, some for a season, and some for a lifetime”

That quote shows this natural process.?

But what happens if we are in the wrong place with the wrong people? When we are just kind people and others around us use us but we just keep on giving because….that’s who we are??

What happens when we constantly focus on others and never receive any of that back, when we are empty and are just going through the motions? What do you think will happen to your health at such a time?

Our inner circle has a huge influence over us in many ways and, yes, our personal health and wellbeing can very easily be compromised in negative circles. That is why it is also important for our self-care, you could even go as far as our self-preservation, to take some time and look into this area too.?

If you are happy in your circle, and I’m not talking about comfortable, then ensure you also play a positive role with those around you. If there are challenges in that area, then maybe it is time to take a good hard look at your situation and change it.? I am not saying you can never spend time with those people again, just less time, and start to involve the kind of people you need, want, and deserve around you.

You will start to have a different outlook on life which will have a tremendous impact on your health and wellbeing. You need to really live every day in the best way possible. You owe it to yourself.

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman

Here is the link to my video about this article: https://youtu.be/h9ndkOvdOZA

Jan Robberts