Are Your Goals Impotent or Important?

Your goals should inspire you to be the best version of yourself, they change over time, so be sure they are constantly aligned with what you value and where you are in your life's journey!"? ~ Joe Contrera

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It’s a New Year and everyone is thinking about their New Year's Resolutions & Goals.

Health clubs are jam-packed with the New Year’s resolutionists who are starting off another year with the expectation that this will be the year they drop the extra 15 lbs. they have been carrying around the last few years.

It’s a fact, health club membership’s jump up 65% in the month of January each and every year.

One way of seeing this phenomenon is to make judgments that people are lazy when it comes to weight control and exercise, but I’m not so sure you can generalize with such a broad brush in this situation. Besides, projection and judgments we have of other people say more about you than the other person.

Tony Robbins once said, “People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals - that is, goals that do not inspire them.”

I believe there is a lot of truth in that statement and I think it is a major cause why folks don’t always achieve their goals.

So How Do I Identify Goals That Truly Inspire Me?

One thought...your goals need to be aligned with values, priorities, and what is important to you at this point in your life. And our priorities and therefore our goals should change over the course of our lifetimes. What was important at the age of 20, is probably not as important as when we reach the ages of 40, 50, or beyond!

The thing to remember here is that priorities change, people change, and with that change you have to be sure you align your goals appropriately. We all have that friend who has had the same New Year’s resolution for the last 10 years and yet they never ever seem to achieve it.

Sometimes you have to make life changing decisions that alter the course of your life, especially when circumstances or priorities change.

The older I get the more I realize that goals which fired me up me a few years ago don’t necessarily inspire me today.

Doing sprint triathlons was great 12 years ago, at this point in my life what inspires me even more is having a life-changing coaching conversation with a client, or having a truly meaningful relationship with a partner I thought I would never meet.

And while my desire to achieve financial success in my business is important, it wouldn't matter at all if I didn't have the opportunity to make a difference in the lives of my client, because significance always trumps success in the long run!

So the next time you start beating yourself up for not achieving your goals, stop, look, and ask yourself, if your goals are in alignment with what you value most in your life today.

And remember, goals are like the oil in your car these days, every 10,000 miles or so, you need to change them if you want to run smoothly...

Till Next Time!