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We all at some time in our lives have held or presently hold anger, hatred, rage, and the desire for revenge in our hearts.?

The world now had become more violent than any century in history, violence is reflected everywhere in our television, movies, video games, literature, political attitudes, the alarming abuse toward women and children, and pervasive domestic violence hostility toward the genuinely poor, and helpless, the persistence of racism and intolerances, the way we treat juvenile offenders and mistreatment of the mentally ill.?

It is hard to put aside anger, rage, hatred, or the desire for retribution and revenge when a child or a loved one is murdered, especially if the killing is particularly brutal and cruel. This is why violence is so hard to subdue.?

Look how difficult it is in restoring peace in countries that have engaged in civil wars, or take for instead my home country South Africa for that matter, people are still holding to anger, rage, and hatred that was caused by apartheid.?

Unless we find a way to break the cycle of violence we will never be able to end the culture of violence that infects our nations and create a culture of caring.?

I asked myself many times, what is the cause of this brutality but one never finds the right answers to something that people don't want to talk about or discuss.

I have found that the reason that people resort to violence is that it often pays, in some ways the simplest thing a man can do if he wants money is to take it, that is no less true for an army of men seizing an oil field than it is for a single thug taking a wallet, and power.?

The challenges to prosperity are precise that predatory violence does pay well in some circumstances. War does change things, it changes the rules, it changes the distribution of assets and income. It even determines who lives and who dies. It is precisely the fact that violence does pay that makes it hard to control.?

The capacity to utilize and defend against violence is the crucial variable that alters life at the margin.?

There can be no lasting peace without substantial justice among all the people of the world, everyone is entitled to live a truly human existence. There is enough for us all on this planet, and only by learning how to share from our abundance to those privileged, the homelessness, hungry and preventable sickness are eradicated, and all are educated according to their capacity.?

Now, this is not an attempt to convince you to agree with me or a discussion based upon an analysis of duties and rights, but rather for the laymen like me and you to understand violence as a thing we learn and experience.?

So what is violence??

Violence?is the use of physical force so as to injure, abuse, damage, or destroy Other definitions are also used, such as the?World Health Organization's definition of violence as "the intentional use of physical force or?power, threatened or actual, against oneself, another person, or against a group or community, which either results in or has a high likelihood of resulting in injury, death, psychological harm, maldevelopment, or deprivation.

Since violence is a matter of perception as well as a measurable phenomenon, psychologists have found variability in whether people perceive certain physical acts as "violent". For example, in a state where execution is a legalized punishment we do not typically perceive the executioner as "violent", though we may talk, in a more metaphorical way, of the state acting violently. Likewise, understandings of violence are linked to a perceived aggressor-victim relationship: hence psychologists have shown that people may not recognize defensive use of force as violent, even in cases where the amount of force used is significantly greater than in the original aggression.

The concept of violence normalization is known as socially sanctioned or structural violence and is a topic of increasing interest to researchers trying to understand violent behavior.

For many people, ... only physical violence truly qualifies as violence. But, certainly, violence is more than killing people, unless one includes all those words and actions that kill people slowly

'Violence is like a plaque that turns on you, the vengeance you wish upon your enemy become contagious that attack you'?

The essence of violence _ of the disease is the anger, rage, hatred, and desire for revenge that usually is inspired by wrongful acts, internalized by the victim, and spread to others who did not suffer the physical injury but who experience the emotional repercussions.?

Think of what Martin Luther King Jr once said, 'Returning violence for violence only multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars, Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that, hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that'?

Poverty and scarcity are pervasive forms of violence in our society, think of that young child growing up outside or around the block, who is without a home, without a place to do his homework, without a place to sleep in the security of his bedroom??

Is it any wonder that the violence of poverty results in violent teenagers who are filled with anger, and resentment. What is painful is that no one seems to be caring, everyone is busy with their everyday lives.?

I wish and hope that one day, the eradication of poverty can be one of the highest objectives on the domestic agenda of every nation.?

It took me long to believe that a world without hatred, anger and violence is possible.

But every day when I woke up to a world that is silent In my head made me realize that it was possible, for we all have in us the power that we can give to each other which is a gift, and that gift is a gift that will continue to bear fruit for us all.?

Nothing brings violence in this world like scarcity.??

We don't need to move to Mars, or create some division around us, like animals, we have learned how to survive and thrive, all is left is to face the truth and become the 'They'?

You know, We've learned to change the light globes in our homes, now we need to join forces and work out how to solve the problem at hand.?

We've got to own our outcomes, and we've got to do something about it because when there is no "they", you are the "they". We are the "they". We've got to say, "What are we going to do about this?"

I'm not the vengeful type, and I just can't see myself trying to harm another human being no matter what the situation.?

That’s not to say that I have not sought revenge in the past.?

I have. But as much as I have wanted to, I never really followed through on a grand scale.?

We can always do better than that negative side of ourselves.

We have control.

Remember; People don't become violent because they were born ruthless.?

We become violent only when we allow ourselves to hate and to become angry, enraged, and filled with a desire for revenge and retaliation.?

When we hate those who commit crime/murder and seek out revenge against them, We allow their violence to infect us.?

Hatred, anger, rage, retaliation, and vengeance are the essence of violence. When we allow these feelings to fill our hearts; We then perpetuate the cycle of violence.??

To achieve domestic tranquillity, We must end that highly contagious social disease called violence.?

With [Violence] a lot still miss it because people still think of violence as striking, knifing, or shooting someone; those are acts of violence.?

Instead, we need to understand that violence is a contagious disease that afflicts a person's emotional and psychological well-being and destroys his/her inner peace.?

We all have a heart after all

Individuals, of course, do make a difference every day, people who care about more than their comfort, are doing all sorts of things to improve the lives of others, and as they help others in need, they experience a deeper fulfillment that can never be found in a bank account. I believe you're one of those because 'YOU' took the time to read this edition today. Helping others or the youth realize that growth beyond selfishness, and to discover their capacity for doing good is a crucial part of the values of education.?

There is good in all of us, and that's a gift: a gift that we need to share with others.?

The antidote for violence is 'CARING'

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