Your Child Might Not Tell You They Are Being Bullied

You can have the best relationship in the world with your child, it is still likely that they won’t tell you they are being bullied, perhaps for years.

The trauma of bullying is not linked to the severity of bullying…

...but to your child’s ability to feel, heal and deal with it.

Some people think that a little bullying won’t do any harm, but it can be damaging if your child doesn’t know how to handle it.

There is no difference between teasing and bullying.

People often think that teasing is okay. ‘I was just teasing’, they will say.

But they forget that their intention doesn’t predict the hurt that is caused, which will depend on the tolerance of the person on the receiving end.

You can’t prevent bullying altogether.

People are creative; they can bully someone for any reason under the sun.

They can bully you for being yourself; they can bully you for not being yourself.

Just as you protect your loved ones when they are under attack, you must learn to protect yourself too.

You can’t break through bullying for your child.

We want to protect our child, but we can’t and won’t always be there for them.?

You might want to solve the bullying for them because the challenge seems too big for them at that moment.

This doesn’t equip your child with the resilience and principles they will need to overcome similar obstacles in the future.

Bullying can help your child to develop.

If we are learning the piano, we practise until we get it right, and then practise some more until we can’t get it wrong.

The same applies to bullying; dealing with it requires practice.

Words don’t hurt; you let words hurt you.

Words can only impact you if you let them.

Think about it, if someone called you names in a foreign language, would it have the same effect as if they had said the same thing in your language?

We all need a safe word.

This is about making time for the child you love.?

You need a word that tells you that your child is in need of your help, now.

The bully is a victim.

Happy children don’t bully. The bully is a victim trying desperately to handle a situation or state that is beyond their control.

Your child has the chance to enable their bully to break the cycle of bullying and set them up for a successful life.

We all need a safe environment.

Every child needs a safe environment, a place where they can be themselves, where they can challenge themselves, a place they look forward to being in.