Your Checklist for Success
Arlene Cohen Miller
AV Rated Attorney, Professional Certified Coach & Work-Life Balance Coach bringing a wealth of training and experience to help women compassionately lead themselves and create the life that works and feels right to them.
Sometimes we have certain areas of our lives that we continue to go around in circles and need guidance to embrace and experience success.
Here's a checklist for success to assist you:
Goals
We can't succeed if we don't know where we're going. Write down and read aloud every day clear, definitive goals, and make sure they are in the present tense. "I am now expanding my client base to more than 500 people that work well with me."
We need to remind ourselves every day what we are working towards and keep taking steps to make it happen.? Every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory beyond measure, to be acknowledged and celebrated a foundation for the new.
Aspire to Greatness
We can't be or do your best if we are willing to settle for less.? We've got to do what it takes to reach our goals, be willing to keep going in the face of setbacks and failures.? Never settling for mediocrity.
Education
If we have the education we need, great.? If we don't, it's something we can overcome.? Lots of people are self-educated.?? We don't necessarily need a degree to succeed.
Sometimes we can you learn what we need to know by working with others, finding free teachers on YouTube, taking short courses, attending seminars and webinars. Education is not so much about the knowledge we have acquired, it’s what you do with what you know that counts.
Discipline
We've got to be disciplined to succeed; do what we need, even some small step, every day to move forward and reach our goals.? We must banish negative thoughts, focus on our inner coach, and choose to be worthy of success.? We can choose to step over the line into worthiness every day of our lives.
Health
We can't do what we need to do if we aren't healthy.? It's important to be proactive, eat whole foods when you are hungry, think positive thoughts, get regular exercise, breathe in lots of fresh air, and treat our body with love, care, and respect.? If it's difficult to stay self-motivated, we can find communities, people, and clubs to support us so we can have excellent health together.
Action
Procrastination is poison. Start now.? Don't wait to be perfect.? We can use the skills, tools, support systems, contacts, and know how that we do have to begin. We can get whatever else we need along the way.?
Persistence
We may be a good starter, but a poor finisher.?? Don't give up at the first sign of defeat.? Failure dies in the face of persistence.? Never ever give up.? Call forth persistence to keep going 'after the thrill is gone'.? Choose persistence to keep going when obstacles are thrown in your way or boring tasks need to be done.
Personality
Stop being a fault finder.? It's important to listen to what we say and think.? If it's negative, stop and cultivate positivity. Be the kind of person who uplifts and encourages others, who works with others in the spirit of cooperation.? We teach what we most need to learn. Lead by example.
Decision Makers
Make decisions and stick with them.? Being indecisive leads to failure.? We must take a stand to succeed.
Marriage
If our partner doesn’t support us, it’s hard to succeed. The five or six people most important people in our lives significantly affect how we see and experience life.? We are much more likely to succeed if we have the support and encouragement of those around us.? If they are not, they do we want them in our lives?? If they are family, do you need to minimize our contact with them, especially if they are really draining our energy?
Cautious
Be discerning.? Have clear boundaries.? It's important to protect ourselves from fear-based manipulation.? Take chances; that's what successful people do. There are no guarantees in life, so embrace uncertainty.? The only thing that's certain is that everything changes.? Being overly cautious does not support our success.
Business Associates
Choose employers or partners who are inspirational, intelligent, and successful. It's important to surround ourselves with people worth emulating.
Open Mindedness
Keep an open mind.? Unafraid.? Never stop learning and growing. Be tolerant of others.? Don't judge a book by its cover; be open to who people are inside.? Be open to new ideas and new solutions.? Notice when you think you're right and someone else is wrong; it's impossible to learn, grow and be successful when we think you have all the answers.? Choose to be genuinely curious.
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Vocation
It's important to love what we do. Settling for something is no guarantee that it will provide us with the safety and security we desire.
Spending
Set money aside every week, financial reserves. Avoid indiscriminate spending. This helps us to be courageous in business and life.?
Enthusiasm
We need to be authentically enthusiastic to be convincing, to get others on board with the products or services we offer. Real enthusiasm is contagious.
Cooperation
Cooperate with others. Build bridges.? Find solutions whenever and wherever possible.
Honesty
Sometimes, we must withhold information or tell a white lie to cause no harm. But most of the time, there is no substitute for honesty. As a general rule, be honest and forthright with kindness and consideration.
Egotism & Vanity
Being egoic and vain are fatal success.? Have a self-centered moment?? Notice it and move back into generosity of spirit.? It's about being and doing our best.? It's important to review our conduct daily and make new choices that support the kind of person we are choosing to be, the kind of person others are drawn to; the kind of person others want to be around; the kind of person that inspires the trust of others.
Homework
It's important to do our homework.? It doesn't pay to guess. Knowing the details and big picture of our business or project and staying away from snap judgments are keys to success.? We can be an informed decision-maker who follows their intuition and heart.
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Engaging With Your Checklist for Success
No one is perfect.? We all have strengths and weaknesses.? This list is an ideal tool to ponder where we are now and where we'd like to be 6 months from now.
If we take 10 minutes at end of your day and review how we've gone, the magic begins to happen. We notice where we went well and where we could have done better. We can picture the ideal of how we could handle that situation, project, or interaction differently next time, and feel the difference.?
Rapid progress is possible when we engage in honest self-reflection, with a desire to know the truth and to improve and grow.? As we self-reflect, it's important not to judge ourselves. That keeps us going around in circles and makes us wrong. This is not about right or wrong. This is about knowing that mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow; that we can turn any disaster into a blessing, and even if things went great, there is always a better way, there is always room for learning and growth.??
Reflection is not a chore, it's an opportunity, a blessing we have in our lives.? As we acknowledge what's working and what's not, we can allow change to move through us.? What we judge we become, so we're choosing to focus on the positive. When we focus on the ideal or new ways of doing things; we magnetically attract that to ourselves.?
It's also important to be grateful for the learning and growth, and to accept how we are and what we are choosing to become. Feeling grateful for our realizations and accepting who and how we are right now is vital to our ongoing growth success.?
And, we don't have to do this alone. We can work with an accountability buddy that we know and trust. We can work with a coach that can partner with us, champion us and help to ensure our initial and ongoing success.
Good luck and keep going with upcast eyes and irrepressible enthusiasm.?