Your 7 Superpowers: When you are an Introvert.....

1. You Approve Yourself

You do not need the acceptance, approval or affirmation of others, for who you are, what you are or how you are. You do not see yourself the way others do. You do need to see yourself in that manner. You are truly independent in that sense. You are free to live as you see fit, because you do not see the need to be shaped by another's thinking. Your life, is truly yours. If someone wishes to judge you, that is fine by you. If everyone wishes to judge you, that is fine by you. You are concerned, with how you see yourself. Your image, is between you, and you. So too, your choices, for and about, yourself. This is your main superpower. Thanks to this one, you automatically have 6 others!

2. Peer Pressure is Poo

Yes. That is right. It is not a typing error. Peer pressure is poo. You do not need to be "in", with the approval or acceptance of others, and thus you are free enough from influences, including those amounting to pressures, of others around. You don't pick up smoking in school, out of fear, that you'd end up lonely if you don't, when everyone else is off puffing. Pressure from peers is therefore not something you think about or look at. You let it go, fully flush it, permanently, and get on with life.

3. You can better Live Your Values

Often relationships come with the cost of "you scratch my back, I scratch yours". There is often, especially in today's world, a very thin line between "favor" and outright corruption. Another good cover term for quietly obliging to things not really fair or transparent or righteous on the whole is "good will". Yet another, "give and take". For an introvert, if someone disappointed by a refusal turns into an enemy, it is a matter simply of, "so be it". What comes with being an introvert, is how you see yourself, to fill the void, of not needing to see yourself through the eyes of others, is very important. You want to be able to respect what you see, when you look into your own eyes, looking into that mirror. It comes with a lot of courage. Off course, values are relative, and how they are viewed or weighted, is also relative. Yet, it is something to consider significantly, the psychological state, costs, impacts, upon those, who may have to live with compromises to their personal beliefs, integrity and value systems, because they cannot help it, being extroverts.

4. You Define Productivity

Domineering loud mouths who talk about productivity may never be productive themselves. You don't talk about it, because you don't have to. Whether in contexts of family, work, education, and ironically, in contexts of your social circles or community, you tend to always give more, because you can get more done, faster and better. Not just is your time management better, you have more of it, because you waste less of it. You don't have to engineer facades and appearances, or social conspiracies, which can be pretty time consuming. Also time consuming, are office politics, group dynamics and "being present". Extroverts just "need to be there". They need to be everywhere. You are concerned with what is meaningful. You are focused. You do what needs to be done. Even when your exclusion, the group dynamics or workplace politics work against you, because you are not "in", that is fine, as you have been productively been working on "what is next" anyway.

5. You Express Yourself Better

It is often misunderstood about introverts, that they are not averse to expression, or speaking, but rather, they are averse to crowds, unnecessary interaction or unproductive expression. Some of the most competent public speakers, authors, comedians and fine artistes are known to be introverts, by people who know them. In fact, some of the best works of fine art or literature in recorded of history, have been produced by persons declared as being reclusive. A logical explanation here, is that while introverts probably make poor salespersons more often than not, not enjoying the hustling but, their communicative faculties are nonetheless better wired to the logical faculties of the brain, and therefore whatever they communication in any manner, spoken, written or artistic in any form, comes with a wealth of irresistible substance - Low Frequency, High Content. Perhaps that is why, some of the most gifted debaters you would have come across, are probably introverts. Even if they don't express themselves as often as extroverts, and would probably fail spectacularly at being socialites. Just go to any major trade conference. The presentation or Keynote you will remember best a year later, will be one, from an introvert, never an extrovert.

6. You have High Immunity to Inferiority Complex

Failing is okay. Not having everything is okay. Not having anything is okay. The biggest, most important truth about introverts, is that they really aren't in competition with anyone, because they never compare themselves to anyone. They may compare others to others, for infinite reasons. In comparisons, introverts just don't subject or feature themselves. So, things like envy, jealousy, sense of inferiority, really don't touch introverts, and extroverts can never seem to get how or why that is possible. However, the keyword here is "High". Introverts have high immunity to feelings of inferiority, they do not have complete or absolute immunity. Compared to extroverts though, when inferiority is felt or perceived, it is far worse for introverts. While the examples are few as to when this happens for introverts, it usually happens where and when it matters most - in intimate personal relationships, where there is a breakdown or rejection. That is the kryptonite for introverts. They need to watch out for this, and it is really easier said than done.

7. Humility is Easy

Most introverts, regardless of how successful or how high achieving they become, they tend to remain very rooted, grounded, down to earth and humble. They don't need to flaunt or show off anything, to anyone. They never have anything to prove to another soul. The world's most esteemed scholars, most celebrated artistes and the most successful corporate leaders include introverts among them, who often standout from their peers, for their simplicity rather than flamboyance. Some introverts move through life to become extremely wealthy, and yet, live out minimalist lives. In simplicity though, they often do live out pretty good, meaningful lives.

Harish Shah is a Coach helping people to re-engineer themselves. He has released free ebooks titled Evolve and Life Reflections of a Life Coach. He is also a Professional Futurist.