Are You Your Friend Or Foe?
Jackie Capers-Brown - Be You Bravely
Award-winning Executive * Self-Leadership Success Strategist * I Teach Women, Teams & Leaders How to Get Unstuck, and Brave Their Greatness to Achieve Uncommon Success.
The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself. - Michel de Montaigne
When it comes to deepening your connection to who you truly are and tapping into more of the creative power within you, your heart and mind needs to be coherent.
When the energy of your heart and mind are coherent, your mind is more receptive to seeing you and your life from a more fresh and empowering perspective.
Your heart feels inspired by a renewed sense of clarity, courage, confidence and conviction. When you feel inspired, you are more apt to act.
WHY is this important?
Haven't you noticed that when you heart is committed to your mind's intention, you embody and express your best efforts?
No matter the vision you have of becoming your best self and living your best life, when your intentions are only mind-driven without your heart's guidance, you are more apt to experience?more stress.
Deepening your connection to your heart increases your capacity to own your personal authority to realize more of your ability to create breakthroughs and manifest new possibilities.
In addition, a more open heart increases your receptivity to believing in your innate worth and trusting that you are enough to effectively lead yourself in ways that level up your wellbeing and success.
We have all a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be. - Jane Austen
Are You Your Friend or Foe?
If I was able to eavesdrop on the conversations taking place in your mind today about yourself, would I have heard a more supportive or critical conversation you were having about yourself?
Would your self-talk reflect you being your biggest advocate, or your most formidable foe?
Whether your self-talk reflects that you are your biggest advocate or your most formidable foe, moment to moment, it is a telltale sign of how connected you are to the love, kindness, empathy and compassion that resides in your heart.
As your biggest advocate, you take responsibility for your emotional needs. There is little to no hesitation on your part when it comes to sharing your vision, perspectives and goals with others for the purpose of making progress in various aspects of your life. You are inspired by who you are, and what you can do.
Yes, you may have your moments of disempowering self-talk but they aren't your norm. Your thoughts and beliefs promote the truth of your enoughness.
You tell yourself on a regular basis:
As your biggest advocate, you are willing to accept your flaws. You forgive yourself and others. You are taking an active role in your healing or you have made peace with your peace to liberate yourself from disempowering emotional patterns.
As your biggest advocate, you are willing to seek the help and support of others to achieve your goals. You perceive failure as feedback, not an indication of your worthiness to experience better in life.
When your state of being reflects an embodiment of your innate worth and the belief you are enough, your actions will consistently inspire and empower you to elevate your wellbeing and success in life.
As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
On the flip side, when you are your most formidable foe, who you are is more influenced by your external world.
You are more inspired by others than you are of who you are.
You are often critical of yourself and show yourself little or no empathy.
When you are your most formidable foe, the voice of your inner critic dominates your self-talk by promoting the myth that you are not enough.
You tell yourself on a regular basis:
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You tend to dismiss your emotions because you are uncomfortable with feeling them. You are more attentive to pleasing others, oftentimes pouring from a half-cup and paying the cost of doing so mentally, emotionally and physically.
You are more comfortable with people who know less or have accomplished less so that they don't challenge you to step up your game.
You have a difficult time accepting yourself. So you're constantly wearing social masks to be accepted by others. You avoid letting people see the real you because of a fear of rejection and being alone.
You have a tendency to hold onto past grievances which often clouds your judgment and keeps you living in your past instead of the present moment.
You are constantly relying on someone or something in your external world to keep you inspired, encouraged and motivated.
The power is in you. The answer is in you. And you are the answer to all your searches: you are the goal. You are the answer. It’s never outside. - Eckhart Tolle
Good News
The good news, if you are more a foe to yourself than friend, there is no need to start going in on yourself.
The fact is, most of us live our lives on auto pilot. The beliefs, thoughts, feelings and behaviors that you demonstrate on a consistent basis didn't just happen. They've been cultivated most of your life. You are deserving of the same compassion that you show to others.
I began to create and feel a shift by asking myself the following questions:
Self-awareness is the catalyst for change. By making time to answer these questions and get to the heart of what matters most to you right now and in your future, you'll begin to show up with a greater sense of clarity, courage, confidence and conviction toward the vision of possibility you want to manifest in your life.
Conclusion
One of the most beautiful and empowering aspect of life is that the majority of us were endowed with free will and choice at birth.
You can choose to edit the current chapter in your life with new plots, characters and experiences, or you can end your current chapter, and turn the page to write a new chapter in your life story.
In either case, your choice will be influenced by whether you are a friend or foe to yourself.
You're either choosing to live your life on the sidelines as a spectator or you're on the field of play navigating the roadblocks and taking action to achieve goals that matter most to you.
You are smarter than you think and much stronger than you give yourself credit for. When you believe in your heart and mind that nothing you face is greater than your spiritual ability to be a catalyst for activating your untapped potential and slaying your unique gifts of greatness, you will be amazed at what you can do with this frame of mind and heart.
You are divine. You are powerful. Own it. Be It. Live It.
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Live Your Greatness,
Jackie B
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