You Won't Feel Like It!

Hey Arnie I don’t think I’m going to make it today!  What’s up?  I just don’t feel right.  Guess what, you’re never going to feel right!  At this point my advice was not to let that little voice in his head take over his life;  like it had so many times before.  Push past being uncomfortable, I told him.  Show up!  You never know, you might feel better.  If not, you’re stronger because you moved a little bit forward, you made progress.  You didn’t give in.  You’re a little bit better.

I don’t care who you are or what you do, we all at times don’t feel like doing things that we know are good for us.  The key to life is learning to be comfortable being uncomfortable.  It’s easy feeling good about doing things that make us feel good and are good for us and those around us. That’s not the problem or the challenge with our life.  The challenge is how to get past that little voice in our head that constantly tells us to stop, when our ‘gut” tells us to go, when we don’t “feel right.” The problem is that little voice in our head carries an amazing braking system.  So nothing gets done.  Then we feel bad, we’ve let ourselves down again, the cycle continues!  Does this sound like you or someone you know?

So, you ask, “what do I do?”  Stop it!  That would be the short answer, but seriously the answer and a key to having that fulfilling life that everyone always tells me they want.  Is to learn how to turn these challenges that don’t “feel good” into things that do “feel good.”  Now you’re thinking, how in the heck can I do that!?  It can’t be that simple?  You’re right!  The concept is simple but the actions are tough! The answer starts with you learning how to change the meanings that you place on things; how you see them.  I call it, “eat your broccoli.”  Let me explain. Many individuals just don’t like broccoli, but they know they should eat it.  So instead of avoiding something that you know is good for you, but doesn’t taste good. (Feels)   I would have you interrupt this thought, by getting you to focus on something other than the idea that I don’t like the taste of broccoli.  So instead of thinking I don’t like broccoli.  Change that to thinking how good it is for me, the energy it provides.  How my health will improve if I eat it.  How I will be able to do more of what I want if I am healthier.  Maybe how you will save money by having better health.  Many I’ll lose weight, get a girlfriend/boyfriend, feel better about myself.  Whatever helps you get the leverage you need to get past you don’t like it!  You could also season it to your taste.  Either way, by changing the meaning, you can create the “Drive” you need to eat lots of broccoli, because it’s a lot easier to do something that “feels good” rather than “feels bad.”  It really is that simple!

Listen it’s not about “Will power,” that only works so long.  It’s about finding a new meaning, the drive to turn something that doesn’t feel good, into something that feels good and is good for you and others.  By learning this simple strategy, you will be well on the way to that fulfilling life you so desire, at any age!

--Arnie Fonseca, Jr
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