You are What You Attract; Even If You Don't Believe It.

You are not attracting quality people in your life because there's this mental persona of who you think you are that is not translated into the decisions you make every day.

There is a huge contrast between what you think you are and other people’s perceptions about you.

You will know your standards by the kind of people you hang around with most of the time, the places you choose to spend your time; both online and offline, and this is also true about the quality of your thoughts.

If you've ever felt like you are always attracting the wrong kind of people or the wrong people as work partners, It only means that you have an idea of what you want to become (what you can become).

That’s it.

But you are not intentional about doing the work to become that persona created in your mind.

That’s why you tend to be drawn to people who depict the person you want to be, through the videos and things that you feed your mind on social media time and again.

We are naturally drawn to people who are confident and charismatic because it triggers a part of us that's dormant but for whatever reasons we have not taken a personal initiative to become that.

It pinches even more when we see people close to us, it could be people we know and have direct contact with or those that are slightly known within our geographies, again both online and offline, or even family members, when we see them acting some type of way that speak into our inner desires and mental aspirations of how we want our lives to be.

This is when the feelings of jealousy and resentment begin to build up.

We begin to judge them very harshly because, first of all, why are they failing at being the ideal version you have in your head, "I know better"(you think), I would have done it better.

The mental nudge.

You internally judge yourself for not making any effort to attain that.

?The Lies You Tell Yourself

In your head, it feels so easy to be this amazing version you idolize. But you forget that it’s not what we say we are that defines us but rather the decisions and choices we make every day.

You could become the best orator your generation has ever seen or the best sportsperson to beat all the world records but if you never translate that idea into actions, you probably will end up becoming the biggest critic of that unrealized dream.

Tell your body, you are not serving my mind if you don’t act on the ideas that are being presented to you.

If you can figure out that disconnect, (between what you imagine yourself to be and who you truly are based on where you’re at) only then can you embark on a journey of getting what you want without having to change who you are but instead, work on improving yourself.

Get out of your mind for a moment and look around you. What are the opportunities you are saying yes to?

What kind of people are you allowing in your inner circle? Do you only want people who will glorify you, avoiding spaces where your opinion can be challenged by others?

It is easy to notice mistakes in character and other people's actions when they attempt to become this ideal version that you "know too well".

When I got invited to a leadership forum. It hit me that I didn't have any single close friend who'd be excited about the event like I was.

I realized that for so long I was hiding a version of me that not a single soul in my phonebook knew about.

I almost cursed the network I had, delete every contact, and maybe start over.

It is only after realizing this, that I made an intentional decision to live true to myself.

This is the same as starting over you might think, only that it's not.

Instead of taking the comfortable seat of a critic, I made a lifetime commitment to show up authentically. Being true to myself.

And it didn't feel like I was starting over because now I was self-aware.

Everything that was done behind the scenes was leading up to me being ready to invite other like-minded leaders to my table.

So I am inviting you to look into yourself and position your personal brand befitting of the persona in your thoughts. A wise man once said "It is not what we say that makes who we are but rather, the decisions we make backed by actions."

Best Wishes.

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