You are way more powerful than you think!

Do you drive?

If you do, then at one time or another you’ve almost certainly had to start looking for a car. If you’re anything like me, you’ve done some research and decided which kind of car you’d like. Let’s say you’ve got your eye on a red Mini.

Then something very strange happens. You’re out and about and you keep seeing Minis, maybe even red ones, all over the place. Every time you go out you seem to spot another.

“This is odd,” you think to yourself. “There can’t logically be more Minis around than there were before I realised I wanted one. Now they’re everywhere.”

You’d be right. But the reason you are seeing more Minis is that you are thinking about them more. All of us have something inside our brains called the Reticular Activating System (RAS), which connects the subconscious part of our brain with the conscious part of our brain. So if you’re thinking about buying a Mini, your RAS spots them and puts them in your conscious mind. Simple(ish).

Noticing red Minis aside, your thoughts and your subconscious mind are very powerful. They make a huge difference to the way you feel about yourself, how you live your life and how you behave towards others.

Perhaps you know that already. That’s good, so well done! But if you’re tired of feeling negative about yourself, or want to value yourself the way others seem able to value themselves, then the important part is doing something about it.

I can help. Passionate is an over-used word in business but I really am passionate about helping women and men get to the root of why they feel and act the way they do and, more importantly, changing it.

Let me tell you about one lady I worked with. I’m going to call her Kathryn.

Kathryn suffered abuse from the age of three.

One of the side-effects of the abuse was that Kathryn began to believe that in order to be safe, accepted and loved in her family, she needed to please the people around her. If she didn’t please them, they wouldn’t love her.

I didn’t meet Kathryn until she was an adult, long after the actual abuse had ended as she wanted help with her chronic illness. She still believed that not only wasn’t she lovable, but that she wasn’t worthy of love at all.

After getting to the root cause of why Kathryn felt the way she did, we worked together on reframing this belief and I was able to show her that love was something we all deserve and that she didn’t have to please others to receive it. She now believes that she can start living her life on her terms and most importantly, without guilt or shame.

If you can get hold of the negative thoughts in your head before you start believing them, then you have made significant strides forward towards living the life you want to live and being the person you want to be.

The NHS calls this the “Catch it, check it, change it” system. It helps us manage stress and anxiety, improve our sleep and boost our mood. This can make a huge difference to our mental health and wellbeing.

“Catch it, check it, change it” is a great practice to get into, and the tips the NHS provides are all good ones, but sometimes the hard part is spotting the lies about yourself that you have learned to believe over a long period of time. If you’ve told yourself for many years that you’re you’re no good at your job or you’re unloveable, as Kathryn did, then your brain will need some training to recognise it as a lie so that you can then reframe it in to a better way of thinking, feeling and being.

This is where my programmes come in. I can help you get to the root of why you feel the way you do – and then we can work together to change it.

Many of my clients say things like “I wish I could just get a hoover and suck these thoughts and emotions out now, I’ve had enough of being like this, I just don’t know what to do with myself,” and “It’s one thing knowing but another to actually make a change in my life.”

Maybe you’re reading this and wondering if working with me is for you. Maybe you’re feeling anxious for no good reason, find yourself finding things to worry about, or you’re having trouble sleeping.

Perhaps you’re struggling with work and can’t work out why, when you keep working hard and trying your best.

Maybe you’ve realized that you’re struggling with low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence or find yourself looking at others and wishing you were more like them.

Or even none of those above sounds like you. But somewhere deep down you know that you went through something years ago and you’re not quite sure what effects it had on you.

Then again, maybe you don’t know, or life has served you well until now, but there’s still something missing and you can’t put your finger on it.

Whatever your situation, if you’re ready to do something to elevate your life, let me tell you there is a way. Allow me to help, let’s have a conversation and go from there.