You are unique and have value.

There are moments when we all feel different like we're standing apart from everyone else, and we question our value.

This sense of being an outsider can lead to what’s commonly known as imposter syndrome, where we doubt our accomplishments and fear being exposed as a "fraud."

It’s common to question our worth in an organisation or within our families and friends, especially when our mood and circumstances fluctuate. But here’s the thing: it's okay to feel this way. The key is not to let these feelings lead to relentless and damaging self-criticism. Not so easy, right?

Reflecting on my own experiences, there have been times when I’ve questioned what I have to offer. I’ve felt like I’m not doing enough or that I’m not capable of contributing meaningfully. These feelings can be intense, but they pass, especially when we remind ourselves of our potential and the unpredictable nature of life.

Often, opportunities are just around the corner, waiting to present themselves when we least expect them.

Imagine if we could travel back in time and speak to our younger selves.

What would we tell them? I’d probably start by recounting some of my achievements and experiences. I’d reassure my younger self that despite the doubts, I have accomplished things I never thought possible.

Now, what if our future selves could come back to talk to us today?

I’d like to think they’d offer similar encouragement, reminding us that we are constantly growing and that the best is yet to come.

We all have something to offer. All of us.

Sometimes, it’s just about recognising and finding ways to enhance our unique strengths.

Upskilling is a fantastic way to boost our confidence and value. There are countless resources available online, many of which are free. Websites like YouTube, Coursera, and Khan Academy offer many tutorials and courses on almost any topic you can think of. Whether you’re looking to learn a new language, pick up coding skills, or delve into creative arts, there’s something out there for you. My own grandmother learnt to drive well into her 60s, swim in her 70's, got a job in her 80's and still pursues an at-home education, despite not being as mobile as she once was.

Exercise has been crucial to maintaining my mental health over the years, though you might not think it if you saw me today. Many experts agree that perhaps the quickest, biggest impact on the mind can be gained by moving your body. It doesn’t have to be intense; even a simple walk can make a huge difference. Physical activity improves your physical health and profoundly affects your mental well-being. I know my twice-daily dog walks are incredibly important to me.

Beyond upskilling and exercise, there are other ways to boost your self-perception.

Practising mindfulness and meditation can help you stay grounded and focused on the present moment rather than getting caught up in negative thoughts.

Connecting with friends and family, sharing your feelings, and seeking their support can also provide comfort and perspective.

Being outward-focused and helpful, kind and supportive to others, can also pull you out of the depths of your own mind. That external focus can be really helpful.

If you’re feeling low, try to be kind to yourself.

Recognise that everyone has doubts and moments of insecurity.

It’s a natural part of being human. Instead of beating yourself up, focus on what you can do today to move forward, even if it's just a small step. Remember, life is full of surprises, and your next big opportunity might be soon.

So, embrace your differences, including your perceived insecurities.

They make you who you are.

Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. And keep looking ahead, because your journey is unique and filled with potential.