"YOU" in the TEAM
Amit Sebastian
Solution and Consultative Selling || Key Account Management || Customer Success Catalyst
We live in a world on interconnected paths. Though we are an individual but we contribute and effect more people than we perceive. It is inevitable that we are will end up being part of a team , either willingly or unwillingly. As a family you are part of a team , when you follow you education you are part of a team , when you join an organization you are part of a team , when you start a family you are building a team that you will be part of . As life goes on you are part of teams that are transient and you may be willingly or unwillingly a part of them
As an individual you always have a push pull relationship with teams that you are part of . Some folks are labelled or self labelled as a team player other are labelled differently. Most of this happens basis how you are perceived as part of team . And that is judged by what you bring to the table that does not cause a lot of resistance within the team. The thing is when a team comes together there are a lot of Ego's at play. Common goal set aside we seldom come to a mid point of agreement or some instance where you have to let it go for the lager cause. Conflict some times can be used to constructively arrive at clarity , but seldom goes down like that. Now this is because being part of a team is a transactional relationship. It is so entrenched in our upbringing that we have to win and be right; seldom do we loose out or give up an argument. We are never have a though process to come to a win -win situation ( mind you this is not the same as a kids race where every one get a participation medal and there is no winner ). Rather we are not trained to manage our transaction with only one outcome; winning or being right. That is where our so called instinct kick in.
This brings us to the individual in the team i.e. "you" . To be part of the team and not feel insecure; the individual needs to have some belief system and conviction. There is also often a need of a role model and mentor. In a family that could be your parents or siblings. But often in other teams of life ( school, collage, colleagues, friends circle) this may be missing or you bet on the wrong people. But there is also the individual who does not seek this, which leads to not feeling secure in a team. You constantly are in need to find these persona's in your life, you find them and then until you have the experience to be in that persona for someone else. Just as important it is to have one's own conviction, sometime it is also important to go in one direction with a group/team to further the bigger objective . So it comes down to a decision point at times when you need to direct life or let some one lese influence the direction for you. I would bring it down to one point really; look at it as a transaction and at the end of the execution of that transaction the principle question you need to ask is are you satisfied with the outcome. Mind you this satisfaction should not be based on winning /losing/satiation of the ego. The outcome should be acceptable to you as a result of conditioning yourself to look at it with a natural perspective.
Always be aware of the consequences of your action or the impact of your action contribution to the part of the team. This is harder to establish when you are part of team than when you are acting individually . However is we keep an open mind and also be mindful of collective action this can be achieved. We are constantly in a push pull between action-judgment-consequence in our lives. There secret sauce is to be satisfied and how you train your mind to do it. Also never look at transactional relationship as one sided or having one outcomes. Rules have to be general guideline and cannot be strictly followed . But right can be a collative decision instead of an individual benchmark
Hence I believe we need to constantly condition our minds to be perceptive of being part of a team. And also it is not about winning all the time. We have to be satisfied, have a feeling of fulfillment or contentment in all the our outcomes.
Life is what happens while you are busy making other palns- John Lenon
Thoughts from a rambling mind. What do you guys think?
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3 年One thing you missed out is the fact that most people become part of a team (willingly or unwillingly) because they assume a win-win situation, ie, everybody wins if the team wins, and that is not necessarily the case in all situations. Most times, we all play a zero sum game, where one team wins only when another loses. And such losses are not quite acceptable by everybody in the team, which then goes into the 'passing the buck' or 'blame game' mode. Being a 'team player' is a tricky thing, where one has to satisfy one's own ego, but at the same time put the ego aside for the good of the overall team as well. But, that being said, a nice topic to post on. Good food for thought this is ...
Team you did it well ??.