Are you sure it is what you think?

When you’re out and about do you ever make up stories in your mind about people you see?

• You see a young couple laughing and giggling – there goes young love you think.
• You see a child having a tantrum in the supermarket – you decide the child is unruly and needs proper discipline.
• A bunch of youths hanging around the bus-stop, making a lot of noise – you determine that’s trouble waiting to happen.

You’ve made a story in your mind based on your values, opinions and beliefs.

But what if you were wrong?

• The young couple laughing and giggling – were actually brother and sister!
• The child has learning disabilities and has been triggered in the busy environment.
• The young boys are just having some fun, waiting on the bus to take them to youth club.

Our minds are always subconsciously filling in the blanks for us – and the same is true at work.

• You decide that people in the meeting aren’t interested in what you have to say.
• You’re sure that your boss doesn’t value your work.
• You know people are talking negatively about that presentation you gave.

All these thoughts chipping away at your confidence as your mind makes up stories – filling in the blanks for what we assume is going on based on our own self-conscious beliefs.

Next time you become aware of that negative story forming in your head – choose to challenge it.

Choose to ask yourself why you feel that way and what you’re going to do about it.

Stop creating negative scenarios in your mind without knowing the true facts.

Choose to believe that people are listening to you, they do value your work and they talk positively about your contributions.

Empower yourself to a more confident way of thinking and behaving.

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