Are you sure you really want what you're after?

‘Be careful of what you wish for.’ It is a well-known phrase – a warning. It is often taken to mean ‘don’t try’ or ‘ be careful, you might be disappointed’.?It is said by well-meaning friends and relations who fear that the achievement of your dreams won’t end well, that you may end up worse off than before. Sadder, because you tried, and feeling foolish because all that effort and work amounted to nothing, compared to what you thought you’d be getting.

This phrase highlights that often what we think is good for us, may possibly be the opposite of what would make us grow stronger, wiser, happier.

I think there is a more subtle meaning to this – I think it is a reminder for how, despite AND in spite of ourselves, we create our circumstances through our habitual patterns of thinking.?These lead to?habitual patterns of behaviour and language.

It can be extremely hard to be totally truthful to oneself. To have sufficient self-awareness and distance from oneself to gain a really good perspective.?Having a more objective view of how we operate as we work towards achieving our goals and in living our lives is liberating as it gives us choice.

The real dilemma is how to *know* when one is fooling oneself, or when a friend’s concerns are right, or which advisor has the best solution for your particular desire – which of their ‘secret’ key’s will safely and happily unlock your success and sense of fulfilment.

So, ask yourself these really important questions?

• How does the ‘wish’ feel inside yourself? Keep quiet long enough and you will know the truth of where this wish is coming from – what does it tell you?
• How does it feel when you’re warned away – do you spring to defence? Does it trigger a knee-jerk stubbornness to do it anyway, or does it incite extra curiosity in you, a willingness to explore further? Is there a truth in what they say? Think of your previous track record.
• What of your advisors – where does their authority come from? What is it about them that makes them worth listening to? How many of them do you work with? Does their collective advice add up to a cohesive single direction, or are you pulled between multiple possible paths and subtleties of direction?

The choice lies with you.

If you’d like to achieve greater success in your life then it is time to take sustained action.

Remember if you always do what you have always done – nothing will change.

Getting to your destination?is so much easier with a guide, message me if you’d like some help.

You absolutely deserve to succeed!

Gina xx

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See also:

Do I Have To Lose Myself To Lead Effectively? https://www.dhirubhai.net/pulse/do-i-have-lose-myself-order-lead-effectively-gina-gardiner

Genine Chat - Wholehearted v Halfhearted https://www.dhirubhai.net/pulse/genuine-chat-gina-wholehearted-vs-half-hearted-gina-gardiner

Why Don't They Get It? Why Leading Others Can Be Very Difficult https://www.dhirubhai.net/pulse/why-dont-get-leading-people-can-feel-very-difficult-gina-gardiner