Are you successful?

Are you successful?

I recently turned 40, the ?literal halftime of my life according to the latest life?expectancy? data for women in the US. This would be about when some go through a midlife crisis, but, personally, I could not be more excited. In fact, I've been telling people I am 40 for a while. As one enters a new decade, we may question what it means to be successful. So, how do we define success?

According to the media

The media often focuses on financial wealth, entrepreneurship, and job titles, leading us to believe that these are the most critical measures of societal success. We frequently come across headlines like "Top wealthiest people," "Best entrepreneurs," and "Best CEOs of..." which reinforce these beliefs. So, a billionaire CEO who started their company is our (capitalist) society's collective definition of success.?

According to Americans

A?Gallup? poll found that while 68% of Americans feel successful based on their own definition of success, only 31% feel successful based on societal expectations. The societal perception of success drivers are status, education, and finances, but personal perceptions of success are greatly influenced by education, relationships, and character.

According to my father

When I was in my early teens, my father asked me, "What do you think success means"? What he said next stuck with me. If a wealthy person focuses on making more money for himself, how is that different from a pauper planning the day for how to make money for himself as well? Maybe they woke up in very different locations and spend their money differently, but the objective and driver of their lives are the same. Only when you can wake up and say, "I have enough. How can I make someone else's life better?" can one argue you have reached a noteworthy level of success.

?According to many?

Ultimately, the definition of success depends on the individual. For many, it's the ability to spend time however you would like: freedom not to work a job you don't enjoy, funds to outsource tasks, and the ability to spend time with your loved ones. Waking up feeling like you can choose to spend time on ideas, activities, and people you enjoy is the ultimate success and wealth to many.?

?So, am I successful?

According to my father's definition, I am currently on the path to success. Over the past 10 years, I have put a greater focus on developing and improving the experience of my team, prioritizing their needs by regularly asking questions such as "What can I do for you?" rather than "What can you do for me?" Furthermore, I am now giving more serious thought and effort into how I can make a positive and lasting impact through my career. My ultimate goal is to reach a point where I can entirely devote myself to the well-being and progress of others, and every day that brings me closer to that fills me with excitement. (never too old to make your parents proud, right?)

Anyway, here are other reasons why I am excited to turn 40?that may also excite you, regardless of your age:

  1. Switching careers is becoming common—if I were to feel stuck or disengaged, I would jump onto a new career in a heartbeat and start over, like many?successful? pivoters before me.?
  2. Women's health is finally getting some?attention,? and I am optimistic that we will begin to see real progress in closing the care gap.
  3. Neuroscience will begin to see real progress in treating degenerative diseases. My brain growing old (i.e., losing function) is one of my biggest fears.?
  4. Gen Z is a?positive force ?in making us prioritize mental health, wellness, and emotional well-being.?
  5. Preventative medicine, healthspan, and quality of life progress mean we can look forward to healthier lives, potentially longer.


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Eric Blazsek, LMHC, MPA

Program Manager of Mental Health Services at CIDNEY, Psychotherapist at St. Marks Place Institute for Mental Health

8 个月

I would judge success by how you feel about being asked what you do for work at a party.

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Jeff Bone

Founder/Connector/Advisor

8 个月

Succes is based on finding joy in your life in whatever you value most. Never compare yourself to someone else, first it indicates you are walking in someone else's path and second an insecurity within yourself. We are all unigue and all have different gifts, embrace yours. “The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.”?—Socrates

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Philippe Barillon

Global Biopharma Leader | Boosting Growth with AI | Quiet extrovert

8 个月

Nice piece thank you for sharing. I see however two flaws in the above. 1. You don’t seem to be the “average” person in the US. 2. I’m 100% convinced that what you and James Peyer, PhD are doing will eventually extend the average healthy lifespan beyond what it is. Embrace a new reality, 40 is the new 30!

James Peyer, PhD

CEO at Cambrian Bio - creating the new generation of preventative medicines

8 个月

If we’re successful, then 40 shouldn’t be near halfway :) And I know your star will continue to rise, Juliette!

Snejana Sevak

Co-Founder, Managing Director, Business Development /Strategic Alliances - S4HC Angel Investor || Board Advisor

8 个月

First of all Happy Birthday ?? ?? .Beautiful piece - your dad is a wise man, and I am sure is very proud of you

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