Are You A Success Addict?
Sonia McDonald
#1 Leadership & Courage Global Speaker & Coach | Award Winning Leadership Programs | CEO LeadershipHQ, The Leadership Association, MenoRise and WorkSparks | Author of 3 Books | Changing the Leadership Landscape!
I am vulnerable here and don't know where to start. I have been listening to an audiobook called From Strength to Strength by Arthur Brooks, and a chapter spoke to me: Being Special vs. Happy and Being a Successful Addict.
Yes, this was me. It was big time! I also needed to be kind to myself, as I have always been an achiever, which could be the eldest child thing. Who knows? I also have Achiever as my key strength in Gallup Strengths Finder.
I was doomed!
However, I realised my self-worth and identity were determined by how successful I was and how successful my business was. When it failed, I failed. It was not healthy at all. I was struggling. Have you ever been there?
So, I decided to focus on who I am and what makes me as happy as Sonia.
Here is my list - and what is yours? Please feel free to comment below.
I am only sharing a little about me here as we all need some mystery.
Mum to an extraordinary daughter
Crazy average painter who is getting better
Local Duck Feeder, especially my one-legged duck!
Op Shopper Extraordinaire
Electric Bike Cruiser
Avid Hiker and Explorer
Laughing and being joyful as much as possible
Showing Kindness every day to everyone
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Passionate about Mental Well-Being, especially teenagers
Teacher, Speaker and Writer on everything kindness, leadership, love and courage
Coach and mentor to as many exceptional people as possible
Extraordinary Commitment to building great future leaders and women in leadership
I love creating incredible, great cultures, teams and leaders
Finally, the CEO, leader & founder of company LeadershipHQ and an extraordinary team.
Today...Happiness and joy take precedence over being special. Being special might bring temporary recognition or validation, but true contentment and fulfilment come from within, from finding joy and satisfaction in life's experiences, relationships, and personal growth. Happiness is a more profound and more sustainable state of being. At the same time, the pursuit of being special can sometimes lead to external validation seeking, which may not always result in lasting fulfilment. This is so true as it is not sustainable or healthy.
How to Stop Being a Success Addict
Stopping the cycle of success addiction can be challenging but certainly possible with self-awareness and deliberate efforts. Here are some steps that may help:
Remember that breaking free from success addiction is a journey that requires patience, self-compassion, and persistence. Celebrate your progress along the way, and be gentle with yourself as you navigate this process of growth and transformation.
Written by Sonia McDonald (and below is my most outstanding achievement - my daughter Abby)
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10 个月Active listening is a strong skill. Sonia McDonald
great message and posting
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10 个月Such a good article Sonia McDonald. I suspect a lot of people will relate strongly to your thoughts.