ARE YOU STUCK IN THE DRAMA TRIANGLE?

One of the most powerful questions I ever asked myself is Am I in control of my life? Or put another way, Am I in control of the things, the events, that happen to me?

A good way to answer this is to weigh up whether you are AT CAUSE of what is happening to you or AT EFFECT of what is happening to you.

If you are AT EFFECT, which most of us seem to be, you believe life is happening to you, it’s outside your control. Those AT EFFECT spend most of their time traveling around the Drama Triangle, first coined by Karpman in the 1960s, playing one of three roles: the Victim (feeling victimised, trapped, helpless and hopeless); the Rescuer (constantly trying to help other victims); and the Persecutor (blaming victims and criticising rescuers).

When people are AT EFFECT, they are accepting the belief that emotions and events are things which just happen to them. They are not responsible - someone else is! This is even built into our everyday language: “She wound me up” or “He made me angry”. No she / he did not. You did!

The good news is there is another side to this and that is when you are AT CAUSE. If you are AT CAUSE you are taking responsibility for what is happening in your life. You respond rather than just react to whatever life throws at you. You make things happen. You have the power to change your beliefs, your identity, your purpose. You are the master of your own destiny.

STEPS YOU CAN TAKE

Simply answer this question… What would you like to have happen?

In my book, Walking Back To Happiness: The Secret To Alcohol-Free Living & Well-Being I share ALL the obstacles I faced, the wisdom I gained and the challenges I overcame during the first year of going alcohol-free.

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