Is this you?

Does this sound like you?

• Is it impossible for you to slow down and truly relax?
• Are you extremely critical and unforgiving with yourself?
• Do you set unrealistically high expectations for yourself and others?
• Are you a workaholic who is obsessed with rules and lists?
• Do you have an ‘all or nothing’ mentality and focus on the end result?
• Are you very controlling in your personal and professional relationships?
• Do you feel like you are ‘never enough’ so you chase the next project or goal to feel appreciated or validated?
• Do you get really hard on yourself for making a mistake?
• Are you a compulsive over-thinker who lets your fears get the best of you? (you’ll even make up narratives in your head and feel them as if they are actually happening)
• Do you procrastinate because you want to wait for the perfect time to start?
• Are you afraid of speaking up out of fear of being judged or sounding dumb?

At the root of these patterns and behaviors is perfectionism.

I myself am a recovering perfectionist, and I can honestly say that it took years of self-discovery and healing work to (1) become aware of this and (2) to unlearn it all. As I peeled back the layers to my overly critical, workaholic and controlling ways, I uncovered a core wound: feeling unworthy.

I’ve come to learn that perfectionists define their self-worth by their achievements, productivity and accomplishments, and they depend on external circumstances + people to feel validated and appreciated.

Our culture teaches us to believe that perfectionism is a trait to be admired, when in fact it interferes with the quality of our lives. It prevents us from: feeling whole, being present, pursuing opportunities and dreams, and it keeps us in the rat race of constantly chasing something outside of us to fill the emptiness inside. How exhausting, right?

If you are ready to un-do your perfectionist ways and desire to cultivate wholeness + worthiness from within, I can be of service through my 1:1 private coaching offering - send me a DM to book a free call to connect :)