You spend your life defending things you didn't choose

It is so true that when we are born we are without any name or identity or religion or caste or creed to classify us as human beings. But moments later our parents decide our name, our nationality, religion, caste creed and we are left to defend for ourselves the things we did not choose at the time of birth.

Self-Accountability comes to mind. Making your own decisions makes you responsible for what comes out of that decision whether it was a positive move or not. Making your own decisions also allows you to make your own mistakes and learn from them. If you’ve ever had someone try to tell you not to do something without a better reason than, “I said so or it didn’t work” it’s not really a good enough reason not to do it. An argument for this way of thinking is that the choice is not in your hands, and so you don’t get to see what will happen if you do the same thing.

This is why advice is not considered a command. Someone can advise you on something, but usually there is an actual reason they give for why they state their position, you can do what you want with the information. Obviously there are things you should avoid doing for reasons of safety and the laws we have set in our respective societies but, that doesn’t mean you can’t do them…just that you shouldn’t because there is a consequence involved. Self-accountability though is an important factor in how your life progresses. when you make choices, you make the choice to represent those choices if something happens as a result, this is something you don’t get a choice of.

If you choose to let others make the decision for you, you can have the illusion of not feeling responsible for what someone told you to do if you do it. Mistakes and choices exist for this reason so giving it away gives that away as well. Whenever I made a choice because I was asked to by my parents or the people that know what's best for me , I felt this feeling of dissatisfaction. If a person is not allowed to make their own choices and is not given the trust from people that they can do so , they begin to lead their lives thinking that they are not capable . Another person's opinion then becomes our way of living. We start to live believing that we can't do something and that is not necessarily true.

As per UK Mirror, it is said that the average person will make 773,618 decisions over a lifetime – and will come to regret 143,262 of them. So we make so many decisions in a day without we realising, it starts from when to brush teeth to how much salt to add in today's dinner. We need to understand there is no good or bad decision when we make that. It takes time to realise if it was an good or after some time (in bigger decisions after months/years), so don't be afraid or stalled to make decisions on time. The worse part in decision making is not bad decisions, it's not making a move on a single decision and stalled at same state for long. Also we would see others giving advice after the outcome of your decisions saying it's bad decision, trust me they would have made same mistake. So don't be afraid to make bad decisions , you could always correct that by making subsequent good decisions.

By not making your own choices, you give up control over your life and your faith in your abilities to know what's right for you. You fail to learn an important thing , to trust your gut. Not to mention , people will take advantage of you by trying to manipulate your decisions to favour them. You will feel crippled in situations where you have to make important life decisions because you don't trust your decisions. Always remember , listen to other people's opinions but make your own choices in the end. Cheers!