Are You Someone Easy to Be With?

The easiest people to be with are the people who do something rather consistently..

When I was growing up, my parents would make a point to take my siblings and me out to dinner to recognize us for another year on the planet. My favorite recognition spot was a restaurant in Marina del Rey of Los Angeles, Charlie Brown's. There was no better spot than that one. My go-to meal was always shrimp scampi. Every year, I looked forward to our trip to Charlie Brown's to recognize that I existed and that I was special.

Those days of recognition have long been over. I used to miss them, feeling a loss of specialness in the eyes of those whom I expected to always make me feel special. After my parents split up, the longing intensified. Looking to others to recognize me as important and special resulted in some poor decisions that took years to recover from—like marriage at the age of 18 years old, just to name one.

“Am I enough?” became the subtle question that nagged at me, distracted me, provoked me, stopped me. “Well, am I? Am I enough?” The answer to this question I could not find satisfaction in from others, although others tried their best to satisfy me. While I wanted others to answer my question over and over and over again to satisfy my need, they really couldn't because my need was like a bottomless pit.

Then, a game-changing life experience happened: an ultimate breakup. There I was, alone, with no one to recognize me, to answer my relentless unanswerable question, “Am I enough?”

There is an ache in the soul when one cannot answer for themselves, “Am I enough?” That ache is often treated—unsuccessfully—with many destructive choices like people-pleasing, workaholism, self-care avoidance, unhealthy relationships, self-sabotage, alcoholism, and other substance use disorders…until...

…until you get sick and tired of the ache.?

I got sick and tired of the ache that had been in my soul since the day my parents broke up and our Charlie Brown Restaurant outings ended.

The ache in my soul was soothed when I had an experience in a personal development course one year after my own relationship breakup. During this course, I learned what it meant to celebrate myself for who I am over what I’ve accomplished. The students were guided in making “I celebrate myself for…” statements. For many of us, this didn’t come easily. It sounded awkward, self-serving, prideful. After all who celebrates oneself? Isn’t that supposed to be the job of others? But as I committed myself to the experience (because going back to the ache in my soul was no longer tolerable), “I celebrate myself for…” statements became believable particularly when I added a tiny word to the end: “I celebrate myself for BEING…”. The answer to the unanswerable question became obvious: “I AM enough because I BE”.

Celebrating who I am, as I am, for who I am in the form of “I celebrate myself for BEing…” statements has become my superpower. The results of properly wielding this superpower are confidence, comfort in being myself—in my own shoes no matter where I am or who I’m with, less dependence on external validation, creation of a life worth living, a mindset that cultivates personal accountability, and…the best part…

...BEing someone easy to be with.

Are you someone easy to be with? Or do you require others to recognize or acknowledge you? Have you experienced the power of celebrating yourself for being yourself, just as you are? If not, I want to ask you to allow me to guide you on a 5-day journey to discover the psychological, personal, and professional power of celebrating who you BE.

Join me for the "Celebrate Who You BE" 5-Day Challenge!

Starting July 22nd, Duo-Coach Cheryl and I will dive deep into the transformative practice of self-celebration. Each day, we'll explore a new aspect of self-recognition, tackle common barriers, and learn powerful techniques to celebrate ourselves consistently.

Don’t wait for others to celebrate you—take the first step towards recognizing your own worth and join our community of like-minded individuals on this empowering journey.

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OH!...and celebrating who you BE is much more fun when you do it with a friend :)

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