You Are Smack Dab In The Center.
You are smack dab in the center of your own success.
The number 1 way to get the success you want is to accept 100% responsibility for yourself and your results. The good ones and the bad ones. They are all here to teach you.
This means that you have to be prepared to give up any and all excuses, reasons, stories & narratives that are preventing you from experiencing your own transformation.
Every single one of them! The more you are willing to let go of what’s keeping you stuck, the more you will transform.
Most people find this very difficult.
A lot of us have been taught to blame outside circumstances when we aren’t achieving what we want for ourselves. I often hear this: people blaming their parents, kids, friends, bosses, colleagues, clients, spouses, the weather, the economy, their finances and even their Human Design. We blame anyone or anything we can rather than taking responsibility for ourselves.
We are currently living in a blame culture, which makes sense. Placing blame is a lot easier than taking responsibility, because owning our own stuff can be really uncomfortable.
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In order to take responsibility for yourself, you have to be willing to realize how much power you have always had. You have to accept that nothing outside of yourself is more powerful than YOU when it comes to deciding how your life will go.
No more excuses.
No more blame.
No more justifications.
The first step to real transformation is taking radical personal responsibility.
You can start now by taking an inventory of everything you’re blaming for your current situation.
Once you realize what you’re blaming (make a list), you can finally start claiming the power you have to make choices that support your dreams.
Let the past stay in the past and start your transformation today.
Tandy start with a list. Simple (and painful for some perhaps) but sensible. Thanks!
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1 å¹´I love this 'comin' atcha hard and fast' post Tandy Pryor! And Theresa French this makes me think of a recent convo we were both part of. This stuck out to me and is so true, and something we all battle from time to time. Also reminds me of The Responsibility Continuum taught by Nancy Kepner at Crafted Leadership, a technique which has served me so well over the years. "The number 1 way to get the success you want is to accept 100% responsibility for yourself and your results. The good ones and the bad ones. They are all here to teach you. This means that you have to be prepared to give up any and all excuses, reasons, stories & narratives that are preventing you from experiencing your own transformation." We can't hang onto blame, it will take. us. down.
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1 å¹´Right on! This is what personal accountability is all about! While there may be legitimate reason why [bad] things happen that are out of control, but how we act and react are 100% in our control! Two books that I have found helpful on this topic: QBQ! The Question Behind The Question is all about practicing personal accountability and work and in life. and The Oz Principle. Both of these address the blaming approach you mention and the need to eliminate it.
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1 å¹´Rather than think of it as "blame", I like to think of it as "control". And with my kids, I used to use the metaphor of the video game controller-- you wouldn't hand that to your opponent and let your opponent make your moves, right? You don't control everything, so stop worrying about what you can't control, and focus on what you do...
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1 å¹´I learned from my parents that bad things, from trivial to terrible, happen to us all. Blaming others and embracing victimhood is much easier than controlling our actions and choosing to move forward. Thank you, Tandy Pryor, for this wonderful reminder!