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Things You Should Give Up and so To Be Happy

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Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them,

will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We

hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of

pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all

go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and

happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we

will give up on all those things that no longer serve us,

and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

 

1. Give up your need to always be right

 

 There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being

wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of

ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress

and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it.

Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight

over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this

question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be

kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your

ego really that big?

 

1. Give up your need for control

 

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything

that happens to you and around you – situations, events,

people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just

strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be.

Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you

will see how much better will that make you feel.

 

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by

those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is

beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

 

1. Give up on blame

 

 Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or

don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving

your powers away and start taking responsibility for your

life.

 

1. Give up your self-defeating self-talk

 

 Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of

their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating

mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling

you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You

are better than that.

 

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used

wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart

Tolle

 

1. Give up your limiting beliefs

 

Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot

do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you

are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep

you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

 

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea

that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

 

1. Give up complaining

 

 Give up your constant need to complain about those many,

many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make

you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy,

no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow

it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings

in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never

underestimate the power of positive thinking.

 

1. Give up the luxury of criticism

 

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that

are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all

the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and

be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want

something, and something is wished by us all.

 

1. Give up your need to impress others

 

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to

make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment

you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the

moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept

and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn

to you, effortlessly.

 

1. Give up your resistance to change

 

 Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B.

Change will help you make improvements in your life and also

the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace

change – don’t resist it.

 

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you

where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

 

1. Give up labels

 

 Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t

understand as being weird or different and try opening your

mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.

 

“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you

don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

 

1. Give up on your fears

 

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it.

It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside

will fall into place.

 

“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin Roosevelt

 

1. Give up your excuses

 

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer

need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the

many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on

improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to

ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of

the time are not even real.

 

1. Give up the past

 

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so

much better than the present and the future looks so

frightening, but you have to take into consideration the

fact that the present moment is all you have and all you

will ever have.

 

The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming

about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself.

Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a

journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the

future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

 

1. Give up attachment

 

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp

and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is)

but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better

at with time and practice.

 

The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t

mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment

have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place

of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less,

where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of

that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so

peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get

to a place where you will be able to understand all things

without even trying. A state beyond words.

 

1. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations

 

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to

live. They live their lives according to what others think

is best for them, they live their lives according to what

their parents think is best for them, to what their friends,

their enemies and their teachers, their government and the

media think is best for them.

 

They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy

with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations,

that they lose control over their lives. They forget what

makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and

eventually they forget about themselves. 

 

You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it,

and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you

from your path.

 

( Michelle Levynn )