Are You Ready?

You were born into a society that comes with many pre-installed programs. One that I can think of immediately is, “you need to be successful for people to like you.” It starts right at primary school, if not earlier. You immediately begin comparing your progress with the kid sitting next to you. “His writing is neater than mine, and she reads faster than I do. My parents will be disappointed.”

It all starts like this and snowballs from there. And before you know it, you find yourself falling into the clutches of constant people-pleasing. Consequently, when you grow up, you feel that a thriving business, a marriage that looks wonderful to an outsider, and a spotless career that goes only up and higher means you’re going to be approved and liked.

You feel like some things are not right, but giving up and starting again would mean people you love will see you as a failure - a double-edged sword that cuts deep. On one side, there’s your personal and professional reputation, and on the other, your happiness.

Choices, with a Capital C

It’s hard to get rid of the program that has been firmly pierced into your personality since you were born. But think this way; if you’re not happy, how can you give happiness to anyone else? How can you continue living the way you do, knowing that it’s perpetuating more and more the emptiness within you?

At some point, you have to make the hard choice and replace that program with the “follow what makes?me?happy and don’t worry about what others think.” And believe me, the sooner you make that choice, the sooner you’ll experience the biggest and best feeling of relief in the world.

Because by doing that, you release yourself from the tight ropes of constant people-pleasing, living the life for others, doing things, and making decisions to feel loved, accepted, and preferred.

Do you need to let go of some people in your life whose opinions of your life path are affecting how you show up each day? So be it. And actually, you don’t even need to let them go. You only need to permit yourself not to worry about what they think of you. It might be one of the hardest things to do, but you’ll see that it’s also the most rewarding journey.

Now ask yourself;

• Do you have anyone in your life who holds you back from doing the things you want to do?
• Do you worry about what other people think of your choices?
• Would you make different choices if you could let go of what other people might think about you?

If one or more of your answers to these questions is YES, do something about it because time is ticking away. Not even a second will be back to you. Bite the bullet, make your choice, and go for it. You can do it. You?will?do it. I believe in you!

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Before You Go ↘?↘?↘?

TEDx Video of the Week:?The courage to trust yourself... Listen to the nudges?by?Jo Simpson?

PS: After enjoying this short video, please make sure you scroll down so that you don't miss the?What's Next?section of my??Limitless Insights?? Newsletter.

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What's Next? ↘?↘?↘?

• Please ask me about our E2M Relationship Fitness program that my partner?Anne Lewis?and I are offering to couples engaged to marry, newly married, and in a committed relationship with no plans to marry. Our pilot is starting in April, and we would love to add you to our waiting list.
• Also, please ask me about the?Be You More Coaching Framework?built on core values that we developed at?ShiftUp - Strategic Change Agency?for individuals, teams, and coaches.
• I am one of the proud co-authors of a soon-to-be-published?#anthology,?#MissionHope?- Thriving Through Seasons of the Soul. A project led by?Char (Charlotte) Murphy, Esq.?and supported by?Dominick Domasky. Stay tuned! It is coming!?
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