You Are A Priority Not An Option

While many of us aim to please others and often forget about how we should take care of ourselves.  In some cases, we reach a certain level that we just get too comfortable and settle for what we think is the best for us at that time.

It is not being selfish, sometimes you have to be on point and know hey, I am tired for doing for others, it is time for me to take care of things for me.  Who else is going to take care of me? No one!

So many people believe what they are told and are often blindsided since they do not think that their so called friends or loved ones are manipulating them with certain things that they are doing.  It often takes a person who is a stranger to look at your life and to point out the truth and yes, sometimes it can hurt.  Wouldn't you want to know right away before you get even deeper in the abyss?

Each person is different in how they process their feelings, emotions and actions.  Some can easily get over a fight and make up instantaneously, there are some who cannot forgive but they forget.  

Truly what defines each person is their respect for one another.  If a person has not given that respect to you, some feel then why should I give that respect to them?  

If a person has a hard time expressing their feelings this could mean a few things, they were emotionally hurt and they are afraid of it happening again or they were never given love as a child and so this is why they have built up a wall to keep their feelings guarded until a certain life experience changes them.

People have different expectations and sometimes when a person experiences a very negative situation it gives them a completely different outlook on life.  They embrace their life, nature and the universe.  This is when a person truly knows that they are blessed, grateful and thankful for everything they have.  They do not have the same mindset that they had before.  

Positivity brings so much energy into a person's life no matter what comes their way.  It can also help others that come in your path.  Negativity keeps you prisoner in your own body and invites evil to invade your thought process.  We all experience all types of negative situations in our everyday life, however we have the ability to deal with it on a certain level.  If you choose to deal with it on a negative side, then your situation will only bring you down and it will play out longer.  Perhaps if you think that your situation is not so bad compared to what another person is going through will definitely help you realize that your life is not so bad.

In my own personal experiences, a person can say anything and some of us tend to believe what is told to us since some of us are too trusting of the wolves in sheep's clothing.  Eventually, it is not what is told to us, but it is body language and little things that people do that we do not piece together since we fail to see the signs.  If a person truly cares for you and they are not expressive in their words, you cannot blame them or be mad at them.  It is understanding them and listening to other things about a person.  Being patient and knowing when that person is ready to let you in then you know that you are a priority!  Some people are all about actions since they feel actions speaks louder than words!

How you truly know that you are a priority and not an option is this, if a person is willing to sacrifice certain things that mean the most to them and they put you first in a lot of different situations that should show you how you the other person feels.  Remember it can take for some people to reach that level, a few months, weeks or even a few years or a simple personal life experience that opened up their eyes.

No person likes to feel unwanted or ignored, some need constant reassurance and some desire emotional support or even a hug.  You have to look within yourself and see if you are willing to go for the ride and if that person means that much to you then you will wait and see how it turns out.  For some of you that have been burned too much and have some type of chip on your shoulder, let that go.  Yes you were hurt and it takes some time to get over, but that new person who enters your life is learning about you and it is not fair to judge them on how you were treated before!  It is not always that the same scenario plays out, it is the energy you bring, you have the choice to decide on how you want it to go.  

Life is not perfect and neither are people.  I think there are some people who are afraid to be open minded and take a risk on certain things.  You cannot fear your own life not everything is going to go your way and that is ok, embrace what has been given to you and always be blessed, grateful and thankful that you are able to open your eyes each day.