Are You "Playing Not to Lose" or "Playing to Win" with Your Family?

You pull into your driveway after another long day.

The emails didn’t stop, the calls ran over, and your mind is already racing about tomorrow’s deadlines.

You walk through the door, say a distracted “hey” to your spouse, and collapse on the couch while the kids fight for your attention.

But you’re not really there.

Your mind is still at work.

Your energy is drained.

Your family?

They’re getting the leftovers.

It’s not that you don’t care. You do.

You love them deeply.

But somewhere along the way, life became a game of survival—just getting through the day without dropping a ball.

That’s what it means to play not to lose.

The Pain of Just Getting By

You go through the motions.

You’re not failing at work or at home—but you’re not thriving either.

You tell yourself, I’ll do better next week. I’ll spend more time with the kids. I’ll plan a date night. I’ll start eating healthier.

But somehow, “next week” never comes, does it?

Or you say, "It's only for a season (or until this project is done)"

Or this big lie: "I'm doing it for you and the family"

Instead, you scroll your phone while your kids beg for your attention.

You exchange logistical updates with your spouse but forget the last time you truly connected or were intimate.

You grab fast food on the way home because cooking feels like too much effort and you tell yourself it's "more efficient"

And deep down, you know this isn’t the life you want.

The question is: how long are you willing to stay stuck in survival mode?

The Shift: Start Playing to Win

So how about flipping the script?

Instead of just getting through the day, you wake up with purpose.

You make decisions with intention.

You invest your time and energy into the people and things that matter most.

You create an Elite Life, one that is Balanced in all the areas of Life, not just work

That’s what it means to play to win.

Look, it’s not about being perfect.

It’s about showing up—with focus, love, and intention.

It’s about creating a life that excites you and strengthens the bonds that truly matter.

You only get one life. How can you live it with

Here’s how you can start:

4 Powerful Steps to Play to Win

1. Create Meaningful Time With Your Family

Picture this: You walk into the house and put your phone away. You give your spouse a real hug. You sit with your kids and ask about their day.

Winning at home doesn’t take grand gestures—it takes showing up, consistently.

This week, commit to one non-negotiable family habit.

Maybe it’s a nightly walk with your spouse, a game night with the kids, or just turning off work for two hours every evening.

Because your family doesn’t want what’s left of you—they want the best of you.

2. Prioritize Your Health

You can’t win at life if you’re running on empty.

Start small.

Drink a bottle of water each day.

Take a 15-minute walk every day.

Set a bedtime that actually lets you rest, even if all the projects, texts, etc. are done

When you take care of your body, you’re not just improving your health—you’re showing your family that you care enough to stick around for the long haul.

Treat your health like the foundation of everything else. Because it is.

3. Set Goals That Matter

Here’s where most people go wrong: They set goals for their career or finances but forget the rest of their life.

This year, flip the script.

Set one meaningful goal for your marriage, your kids, your health, your mindset, and your faith for this week.

Just a simple step.

Break each one into simple, actionable steps.

For example, if your marriage goal is more connection, commit to 15 minutes of uninterrupted time with your spouse every evening.

If your faith goal is spiritual growth, set aside five minutes each morning for prayer or reflection.

Playing to win means building a life with intention—not leaving it to chance.

4. Look into the Mirror

When we look at our balance in our lives, many people say, "well, my life isn't perfect, but it's not that bad".

Really?

Maybe you are right. And maybe not.

How do you know?

So I have a free simple tool for you to find out if you have the courage.

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Then you will know where you really stand.

Take the First Step Today

So right now, commit to one thing.

Turn off your phone tonight and have a real conversation with your spouse. Take your kids out for ice cream this weekend and leave work behind. Go for a walk today—just you and your thoughts.

Because playing to win isn’t about doing it all—it’s about doing what matters most.

What will you commit to doing the move the needle today? Are you ready to take action? Click on the image below to find out more information!