Are You Ok?
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. And the news about the state of mental health are nothing but heartbreaking.
Over 51 million American adults (around 20% of the US population) have recently experienced a mental illness, but only 44.8% of them received treatment. Between February 2020 and March 2021, there was a 93% increase in mental health-related emergency department visits among children aged 12-17 years. And, of course, the COVID pandemic made it all worst with 4 in 10 adults in the U.S. reporting symptoms of anxiety or depression.
One of the most painful statistics is suicide rates. In 2019, 47,511 people died by suicide. And it's not hard to connect the increasing rate of suicides with the increasing rate of depression. In 2019, approximately 17.3 million adults in the US experienced at least one major depressive episode in 2019. During the onset of the COVID pandemic (2020), that number skyrocket 8.5% compared to 2019.
Unfortunately, the rate of mental illness among young adults is also increasing, with 29% of adults aged 18-24 experiencing a mental illness (2020).
One more data point: mental health conditions are the leading cause of disability worldwide. In the US alone, mental health conditions are the second leading cause of disability.
And work is not making it any better.
In 2020, 43% of employed adults in the United States reported that their mental health had worsened due to the pandemic. A number that has not improved since. In 2021, research found that over 50% of American workers were experiencing burnout. 18% of full time worker in the US now report constant symptoms of work-related depression and anxiety (which is estimated to cost $1 trillion in lost productivity worldwide).
If this doesn't create an urgent case for immediate and serious action, then I don't know what will.
In one of my recent posts I discussed how the time to act is now to improve mental health and overall well-being . Evidently, the current situation is horrifying, but it isn't too late to take serious action before we hit an inflection point with no return (or a very costly and painful one).
In this post I discuss a more nuanced approach to solving the mental health crisis: by supporting one another at work.
Supporting One Another at Work
Many of your coworkers (and perhaps you, too) are struggling with mental health illnesses and conditions that are subtly or severely affecting their life and, of course, their performance at work as well. Whether you can see it or not, whether you can sense it or not, their struggles are real.
Some folks at work show a smile everyday and seem to be very happy, and they can be struggling with some serious and severe challenges. Others seem to have changed and maybe their mood is not what it used to be.
Sometimes you see the signs, but, very often, some of those signs are either invisible or too subtle or start showing up little by little.
Ultimately, this is what matters: caring for one another, supporting each other, and treating people with kindness and compassion. We really don't know what they are going through, whether they smile all day or the signs of their struggles are visible.
While the mental health crisis in America and the world is severe, and I don't want to oversimply its complexity (the complexity of its root causes and the complexity of its solutions), there are every day things we can do at work to create conditions for mental health and overall well-being improvement. Around half of Americans diagnosed with a mental illness need medication. But that means that at least the other half has not crossed that threshold yet, and there is a lot that we can do for all of them.
One way to do so is by being kind and compassionate at work through engaging in conversations that can be initiated simply by asking: "are you ok?"
However, I know how uncomfortable it can feel to ask such a simple question (are you ok?) for both the person who asks and the recipient of the question.
If you don't feel that the phrasing of that question is appropriate, here you have a list of several alternative ways to ask "are you ok?" to initiate a conversation that can be, literally, a life saving one for that coworker.
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One last thought: I always say this "think big, act small". In the context of mental health, thinking big means dreaming of a workplace where people are holistically healthy. How do we make it happen? Well, by "acting small". And that means something like simply asking: "are you ok"? (in whatever way you choose to ask that question).
Are you OK?
20 alternatives way to ask "are you ok?":
Am I OK?
Who cares for the caregiver? Who cares for you when you are trying to care for others, but you have your own struggles?
I hope that a lot of people are caring for you as much or more than you care for others. But this is the true: caring for you has to begin with you.
Self-care is essential. We can't pour from an empty cup. We can't give what we don't have. If we are not OK, how can we help others be OK?
I want to encourage you to check-in with yourself and your mental health.
Check out the list of questions that I created to ask yourself "Am I OK?". These are some basic questions for a self-care discovery process that leads us to valuable insights about the state of our mental health.
Please note that I am not adding a course of action in relation to your response to any of these questions, but I hope that the discovery process you are about to engage in by asking yourself these discussions can lead to increased awareness and intuition about what the next steps should be. And even if you don't have an idea about what the actual next steps should be, at least you realize that you do need to take steps to improve your mental health.
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By Enrique Rubio, Founder of Hacking HR
(Note: I write fast, speak fast and read fast. Sometimes - often times - I don't see the typos! Please let me know if there are typos or grammatical misconstructions in my write ups. It happened to Shakespeare, it certainly can happen to me. Do so with kindness, compassion and grace, though. I appreciate it!)
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Hacking HR Challenge: “From Burned Out to Fired Up”
The "From Burned Out to Fired Up" Challenge is a 15-day journey that focuses on simple, practical, and effective ways to improve your well-being and recharge your batteries. Each day, you will engage in a small self-care activity that can be completed in 15 minutes or less, with the goal of cultivating and nurturing your self-care and, ultimately, help you flourish with sustainable effort that fires you up instead of burn you out.
We started the challenge on May 1 and it runs until May 15. Stay tuned as we are opening it again on May 16.
Senior HR Business Partner | Employee Relations Leader | Strategic Leader in Organizational Effectiveness & Employee Satisfaction
1 年Love this content. It’s very basic but a good reminder for everyone because it’s so easy to get so involved with the demands of work and life that we can easily lose sight of those little things that have a huge impact.
Senior Legal Operations Leader | PMP & PHR Certified | Driving Strategic Operations and Employee Relations Excellence
1 年As a community (whatever that looks like for each person/group) I believe that our ability to come together, lean on and lift each other up, enhances our ability to build durable mental health skills.
Great share thank you!!
Westpark Marine Engineering - Service & Sales
1 年I appreciate this information. Caring for the people managing and looking after others often requires an element of self-care, but it is so easy to neglect this simple essential activity when we are busy and under pressure. In most cases there probably isn't much we can do about the causes of the pressure and stress we're experiencing at work, they exist and we get paid for dealing with them, or the problem/s may be outside of work so we're not getting paid to deal with them but still can't make them go away or leave them behind because of commitments you have to maintain. Accepting that we can't change some situations but we can change how we care for ourselves is a way more significant achievement than it sounds. For busy people, 15 minutes of self-care may sound like one more task on an already crowded list of things to do, that's why it's good to use a platform like this to give yourself a chance to make it happen. 15 minutes each day for 15 days is a commitment to yourself. You've got almost nothing to lose, and everything to gain. I can see how it could become one of the simplest and best habits to consciously develop. I'm keen to try it and would like to hear about what others do with their self-care time.
Social Relations expert in seeing, developing, &implementing systems such as humans & organizations. Pioneer? Founder?Sociologist?Analytical Starter?Strategic Strategist?Coach?Developer?Heyoka Empath?Intuitive?Human??
1 年This information is great! Being forward in reality, If you are in a toxic/ environment that is causing mental health issues it is hard to recreate or lean into the actions you are providing. We have to work hard to create healthy/ harmonious environments for the talent to thrive in. If not Mental health awareness month is just another month we do lip service to check off a box to say we care. Thanks for your time and for the insight! Social Relations Coach, Founder, Multipreneur- Anquida A.