Are You Mucking Around?

[Action Precedes Clarity]

Are you mucking around right now?

Do you want to be one of those happy married couples being warm intimate and connected, having fun together travelling in your old age and enjoying the family?

If so, what have you done today to advance that goal? This week? This month? This year? Years?

If the answer is nothing, or hardly anything, you're mucking around.

I know several borderline emotionally retarded that saved their marriage in the first few months doing this stuff. They barely had a clue what they were meant to do, but they were doing it.

Not you. You're just mucking around.

I get it. I really do. I love to muck around.

Technically, I am kind of mucking around right now writing this. I'd rather be watching Netflix and mucking about even more.

But we aren't talking about me. We are talking about you. The problem with you is, you keep getting ready to get ready. You're an endless litany of excuses, promises and no execution. And it's because you have an idea in your head about how things should be.

And that idea is wrong.

Especially if you've spent too long mucking around. Are you dreaming of a date night? A walk in the park? Talking intimately? Salsa dancing together? A big hug? Something your spouse needs to do and be for your imaginary wonderful relationship to actually start to exist?

Is it going to be warm and intimate and beautiful and you'll be so kind and generous and emotionally connected that your partner will fall back in love with you?

Bugger all that. That's why you're mucking around.

It doesn't need to be expensive. It doesn't need to be perfect. It needs to be actionable. It needs to be real. It needs to be authentic

So many people fall in love with this idea of the perfect falling in love rubbish, finding your soulmate, having warm loving butterfly's, in other words a MAKE BELIEVE marriage.

So what if you start out a little at a time, working on yourself - do you know how freaking awesome it is that you can take action.

Like, you can add to the emotional bank account every single day. A kind word here. A hug there. A bite your tongue then.

That is the hardest building a great relationship can get. It's not that hard. You don't even have to go on holiday to Bali or go to soul-destroying counselling.

You are living in a time where all everyone wants is to be loved and appreciated in an age and time where millions of people are lonely and disconnected.

And here is you: mucking around.

You can instantly reach your partner with a message a text or a smile.

But here is you: mucking around.

Chances are, the very device you are reading these words on right now is capable of delivering a piece of love right now to your partners inbox.

Yet here you are: mucking around.

Because you're in love with your needs, why they don't understand you, your resentment and anger and sense of betrayal. You throw yourself into business, the kids, any petty distractions in the hamster wheel gauntlet of day job, home life, gym, mates and... mucking around.

You need more love? Today? Then stop mucking around?

You also need a plan, some support

Not a miracle. Not prince charming. Not the dream that doesn't exist.

But action. And action precedes clarity every freak'in time.

Do it.

Reach out and well give you a plan you can commit to, take action and get it done.

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